Thanks for commenting. You know, I get a few e-mails from people with pretty similar situations and I try to put a little thought into any kind of advice I can provide. Unfortunately, there are people like that out there and unfortunately, there isn’t an easy way to deal with them. Personally, when this has happened to me in the past, I found that in one case I outlasted that person and persevered. In another case, I figured out how to work with that person and simply never allowed him to get in a position where I depended on him for anything. In another situation, I left that organization and moved on. It’s really going to depend on where you are in your life: can you live with that person for a while, can you exist with them, or do we need to cut our losses and leave?

Strategically, I would encourage you to understand that first, in order for someone to stab you in the back, you have to provide the back. I’d encourage you to be candid with the person and explain your position and why you are unhappy with their lack of loyalty to the personnel and the organization, but if you are uncomfortable with that (which happens when you have someone who will lash out or go after your job), I’d suggest avoiding the person as much as possible and don’t let them have an opportunity to break one off on you.

I’ll have to think about it a little, and if I have some more insight on it, I’ll comment back.

Mick

We caught him lying to us and he could not be trusted. Too bad.