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Zen Zone #35

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Part of the reason why it seems like conflict between individuals is continually escalating is because it is.  In order for us to move out of this destructive cycle, we have to understand that society's approach to conflict, to treat it as a battle, is counterproductive.  Especially in politics, the combatants are continually competing for power over one another, rather than to develop broad, bipartisan support to solve shared problems.

Pitched battle is not a desirable tactic.  It exerts energy that could be utilized by just fighting smarter. A siege is the last type of battle anyone should want to engage in. It does not resolve the issues quickly or intelligently either.  It is best to look for opportunities, to engage when the timing is right, and to focus resources on the battle at the appropriate time and in adequate numbers.

In the meanwhile, create peace when you can, make allies when you can,  In the future, your success may be dependent on the forces you can summon not from your own stores, but from the stores of others.  Success does not come quickly or easily. But it will never come unless we start grappling with the hard problems first and use our energy wisely.

Attributes of Generals

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Zhuge Kongming said, "Advance and retreat are a matter of timing- military affairs are not directed by the ruler but by the general. Therefore, there is no heaven above, no earth below, no adversary ahead and no ruler behind. If generals can be like this, people will be willing to fight when they give the orders, and the enemy will be defeated before any blood is shed. Look upon your soldiers as beloved children, and they will willingly die with you.

I don't need my people to die with me to do their job, but look at it more along the lines of discipline and respect.  "When you can be like this", your people will follow you wherever you need them to go and will do whatever it takes to create success.  This has been my credo for a very long time.  Whenever I get a new officer under me, I share it with them and explain the meaning of it.

Once someone asked one of my colleagues if I really lived this stuff or if I was full of crap.  My colleague told me he said I not only talked the talk, but walked the walk.  It's one of the finest compliments I think I have ever heard.  I try to lead with integrity and while I expect much from my people, I know they expect much from me as well.  I am not kidding when I say that I am truly embarrassed when I let them down somehow, and that does happen from time to time.

Try to lead as if not only your life depends upon your ability to command, but as if your subordinates' lives do too, because their lives DO depend on it.  Learn your craft, know how to lead and command, and strive for excellence.

 

Sacrifice

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Okay, let's talk about sacrifice. My wife, who is already suffering a post-Nepal-trip flu, fell asleep on our couch last night. At zero-dark-thirty this morning, our youngest daughter, Honora, woke up with similar symptoms. She went downstairs, curled up next to Kathleen on the couch and kept her awake for the remaining portion of the morning.  Kathleen did not wake me up, though she had an eight o'clock appointment with a client. By the time I woke up, she had Honora under control, got ready for work, then came downstairs and helped Emma, our oldest, create a faux buckskin tablecloth for her school project on indigenous cultures.  Between all of this, of course, she was also engaging our middle child, Caroline, who didn't want to be left out of the excitement.

The point of sharing this information is not to celebrate my wife's profound dedication to our daughters, although it is amazing and deserving of such praise.  The point is that true leadership requires sacrifice.  Real leaders don't just mail it in when they are tired, or sick, or having a bad day.  They put others first and they continue soldiering on.

Sacrifice is often associated with the Supreme Sacrifice, that of laying your life down for others.  I suggest that to lay down your life for others is different than laying your life down BECAUSE of others, as the former implies you are trading your life for theirs and the latter that you are simply dying with them.  I'm not going to go into the issues I alluded to yesterday, about not wanting to leave your fallen brother.  What I am getting at is that the act of laying your life down FOR another implies a trade, or the meaning of sacrifice in that you do something so that someone else can gain something.

My wife could have sent Honora to wake me up and continue sleeping, which she should have, but she did not.  My wife could have told Emma to suck it up, to figure out her project herself, but she did not.  She could have told Caroline to leave her alone, because she didn't have the time, but she did not.  She took one for the team, she did what she did, and she showed our daughters what it is that mothers do.  They sacrifice.

As an officer, you are called to sacrifice as well.  If you don't, you are just one of the gang.  You have to put on your game face and do what needs to be done, not only because it is your job, but as a leader, you have to lead.  You have to be in front, showing people the way.  You have to provide positive examples for your team.  You have to engage, coach, correct, reinforce, teach, and mentor.  This all requires time.  It requires patience.  It requires understanding your people and what motivates them.

Transformational leadership doesn't come about by simply telling someone what to do and expecting compliance.  It is the difference between catching the fish and teaching someone how to catch fish, as the saying goes.  It is one thing to catch the fish, it is entirely another to take the time to teach someone to do it for themselves.  But this sacrifice of time, if correctly applied, is an investment in the future.

When you think about leadership and stewardship, they are basically the same thing.  They involve "taking care" of something, usually people.  Leading can come about because you simply happen to be the person at the front of the line. But real leadership comes from knowing where to take that line and how to avoid pitfalls along the way.  That requires caring about everyone else and shepherding them to the final destination.  And because it requires you to do MORE than just following, it is in itself, sacrifice.

We can exist or we can take action.  We can take up space on this planet or we can work to make it a better place.  If you are reading this, except for those of you I shame into reading my articles because you are close friends or relatives, you are likely interested in learning more about leadership.  So I don't believe that existence is sufficient for what you have in mind.  Take hold of the standard, put it up high where others can see it, and advance. If you are doing it right, others will follow.  When they see you are willing to sacrifice, they may even offer to carry that flag for you.  And when they can create the same momentum, that, THAT is leadership.

And Now, The Rest Chime In…

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Well, it was inevitable. Now we have the 53 Percenters, a conservative group who I heard featured on CNN this morning as the answer to the "We Are The 99 Percent" protest offered up during the Occupy Wall Street movement.  Philosophically, I guess I should be right in line with these folks.  I work several jobs, I pay my taxes, I think there are a number of people who should live within their means and aren't (which got them in this situation to begin with), and I am a white, God-fearing male in my late forties.  I also believe that there are those who should "suck it up and get to work".  This being the basis of the 53 Percent group, according to an article by Annie Lowrey in Slate:

The 53 percent say everyone should stop moaning, quit pointing fingers at Wall Street, and pay their damn taxes. (The name refers to the fact that only 53 percent of households pay federal income tax these days.) The brainchild of Erick Erickson of RedState.org, the 53 Tumblr features comments like: “I don’t blame Wall Street. Suck it up you whiners. I am the 53 percent subsidizing you so you can hang out on Wall Street and complain.”

But as is always the case, there is more to the story, which the ultra-conservative camp also seems to mention:

The short answer is: deductions and poverty. About half of households within that 47 percent do not end up paying federal income tax because they qualify for enough breaks to cancel their tax obligations out. Of that group, 44 percent are claiming tax benefits for the elderly, like an exemption for Social Security payments. And 30.4 percent are claiming credits for “children and the working poor,” like the child-care tax credit. The remainder get breaks for investment income, spending on education, itemized deductions, and a mish-mash of other things. When combined, it’s all enough to cancel out their income tax requirements.

I hate like hell to post a blog with so many quoted statements, after all, you can read the article yourself.  But Ms. Lowrey has done such a good job of stating the story that it would be ridiculous for me to try to re-frame it.

[This] covers about half of the households that don’t pay any federal taxes. The other half of households are just too poor to pay them. [The] pool of too-poor households has grown much bigger because of the recession and its aftermath: Average incomes have kept on declining even though the recession has officially ended, and millions of households have lost one or both of their wage-earners. Households are earning about 10 percent less than they did in 2007. About 12 percent of families live in poverty. That means a lot of folks simply aren’t eligible for income tax.

So what does this mean for any of us?  It doesn't change the fact that we are all suffering and our politicians, generally, aren't doing their jobs.  It also means that there are many in this nation who aren't contributing to the bottom line.  It ALSO means that there are those who can AFFORD to contribute and those who have NOTHING to contribute.  And likewise, those of us caught in the middle are saddled with covering the bets.

I'm not comfortable with legislating fairness.  I think that the fact we are even having this discussion, however, is an issue of justice.  Why am I even discussing this on Firehouse Zen, a blog supposed to be about leadership and change?  Because this is a classic study in leadership and power.  We can oversimplify the situation, but the realities are these:

 

 

  • We have a select group of individuals who are supposed to be leading our nation, yet are too embedded in status quo, favoritism, and big money to lead responsibly.
  • These people are heavily influenced by a number of individuals with the means and the connections to advance their personal agendas, which include enriching themselves at the expense of the rest of us.
  • People who would probably make good leaders are dissuaded from doing so because they don't want to subject their lives to intense media scrutiny, negative campaigning, and having to spend more time running for office than managing our government.
  • We have an increasing number of poor as a result of a number of factors: joblessness, rising prices, unfair banking practices, living outside their means, etc.
  • We continue to sink funds into practices that continue to enrich a chosen few and fail to help the entire nation.
  • The situation is not improving.

The issue is not that someone like me desires legislation to "even the playing field".  I LIKE the idea of a meritocracy.  I LIKE capitalism.  I DEPLORE socialism; I resent that someone who would work less than I do would get rewarded for doing so, just based on the rules of that society.  But I am also something I consider more important.  I am realistic, I am skeptical of both sides of this issue, and I consider myself a leader.  

Real leaders don't let the weak get beat up by bullies, even though they have it good themselves.  It would be really easy for me to say, "You know, I meet the criteria for telling the rest of you to suck it up.  So suck it up."  But as a leader, I have to be concerned about those I lead.  And while I have a job, I can put food on my table, I have insurance, and I can afford to send my kids to a private school, I think abandoning the poor, the unemployed, the hungry, and those who really DO want to get back on their feet again is reprehensible.

Yesterday we were doing MAYDAY drills in our department.  One of the hardest things we continue to face in our job, and something we are trying to work through, is lying there on a floor with a fallen brother, whose air is running out, who is trapped and unable to be extricated, and with our air running out, saying, "I'm not going to leave you.  I will stay here and die right next to you, but I'm not leaving you."

We know what the right answer is.  Or do we?

Occupy Your Life

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With the movement around our nation and the world right now to occupy one space or another, again I am reminded that our similarities outweigh our differences.  Yet there are still those who would rather reap discord and create anger instead of looking at the big picture, being the trolls that they are.  You may not identify directly with those individuals exercising their First Amendment rights on Wall Street, or anywhere else for that matter.  The chances are, however, that any issue they have that they are willing to speak out about in a peaceful manner, should be considered before dismissing it as garbage, if not for the reason that in their message, they speak out in favor of things we were likely supporting anyway.

I find it interesting that people on the extremes are even speaking up at all, because it is their fault that we are in the mess we are in.  This isn't just the Extreme Right we are talking about or the Extreme Left.  It is their unwillingness to work together, their total devotion to party above people, their fanaticism and their zealotry that have brought these times upon us.  If you choose to argue this, go ahead, but the reality is that those in our government on both sides who have failed us, and those extremes that have driven our agendas on both sides, are more about themselves and less about the rest of us.

The only people profiting from our current situation are those who have the means to manipulate the system.  The corporations and banks that took bailout money yet failed to tighten their belts continue to make profits and to take advantage of loopholes not available to the rest of us.  Small businesses have shut their doors all over this country because of the poor stewardship and greed of others, but help never came for them.  In fact, I know businesspeople who are still suffering from the mismanagement of our financial sector and the piss-poor government oversight, but I don't see any screaming from the mountaintops by our elected officials, except to point the finger at their colleagues.  Let's be blunt: By continuing to do business the way you all continue to do business, you are driving our Nation to the edge.

I am by no means aligned with any side.  I hold equal contempt for both extremes.  I would be in favor of privatizing government if the privateers could be trusted not to squander my money, give me crappy service, and feed the bloated CEOs who already have more of everything than they could ever hope to use.  But that being said, I think our government has done an equally crappy job and can't be trusted either.  If anything, it really does call for a return to more local government and less centralized government.  While you lose some in the economy of scale, there is a lot more ability to maintain accountability and insist on transparency.  If the populace of a locality choose to be more innovative, so be it.  If they choose to be conservative, so be it.  But in this fashion, like minded individuals would actually have a place to group together, in communities with those who think like them, or in more diverse communities if they so choose.

It's time we all pushed back against the current way we are solving our problems.  The "leaders" in our nation are concerned only about being re-elected.  While the argument can be made that if they don't get re-elected, they can't invoke change, the flip side is that if you are focusing more on getting re-elected than on governing, what reason do we have to keep you there anyway?  

The lobbyists who make a fortune pushing their interests in government could stay, but their ability to buy a vote through any means should be taken away and their ability to push their agendas through the use of logical reasoning, creation of workable plans, and solving the dilemmas caused by their agendas should be valued instead.

And these big corporations who are getting more in government subsistence than any "welfare sponge" (to use the words of one individual) could be forced to compete on the same playing field as the small businesses.  Less loopholes and more equality for the businesses around our country WOULD put more people back to work.  But when we effectively reward corporations for having a better legal and accounting team than the small businesses, we take away the ability for these small businesses to even stand a chance.

The chances are that you actually agree with a lot of what these "Occupiers" are saying, whether you are a conservative or a liberal.  They are angry that there are people exploiting us for their own gain, both in business and in government, with no chance for the rest of us to make a living on our own merits.  My wife and I pay our mortgage.  We invest in our future.  We run a business and don't lavish gifts on ourselves. We don't exceed our means.  But while we pay our taxes and work hard, I personally don't see any reward in the fact that we do so, yet executives and bankers and politicians can afford second and third homes, yet have failed our country.

You don't have to go sit on a street corner to support change.  But you can take an opportunity to learn about the issues and say something to your elected officials.  And if they don't want to listen, it is your responsibility to replace them with someone who will. We need leaders who will look past the ideology and look toward what solutions are available for improving ALL of our lives, not just the chosen few.

Zen Zone #34

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It is one thing to create art, it is yet another to create art that inspires others to create art.  It is one thing to be supportive, yet another to be activist.  It is one thing to be in favor of change, yet another to create change.  It is one thing to be a leader and another to be a leader of leaders.

We can achieve a higher level of leadership by inspiring, advocating, and changing.  But a real leader of leaders is a servant. Servant leadership shows that to you, others are more important than you.  These leaders are transformational, they convey their vision, engage others, and cause those others to be excited about their own values.

Steve Jobs: What Impact Do You Have On Your World?

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I didn't know the man, personally, or professionally, really.  I own a few Apple products and I like them, I even love them. But while I recognize Steve Jobs as being an amazing individual, I hadn't really followed his career, or read any articles about him, or anything like that.  But I recognize greatness when I see it and his impact on our world as we know it has been substantial. 

When I listened to some of the testimonials about Steve Jobs this morning, I realize what a loss our generation has experienced, but not probably from the aspect you might think. This individual was truly visionary.  He created from what was a dream, an empire.  He was an inventor, a creator, a manager, a huckster, and summing it all up, a true leader.  He applied his vision to create a reality.  He used his vast array of abilities to translate vision into action.

What impact do you have on the world around you?  You don't have to invent the next best thing to aspire to greatness.  In fact, some of the simplest things you can do will break you out as an inspirational and amazing leader.  By using your skills of motivating others, setting positive examples, working hard, demonstrating integrity, and caring for others, you can be a leader that others flock to.

Charisma goes a long way, but being true to yourself and leading from the heart will carry you the full distance.  It takes real belief in self to achieve greatness.  Do good things for others and be a person of vision and action.  There is a big difference between "support" and "activism".  If you believe in something, make it happen.

God bless you, Steve Jobs.  You made a significant impact on our world throughout your life. We can only hope to achieve a fraction of that kind of effort, but in doing so, we can achieve excellence.  

Firehouse Zen in Philadelphia at Liberty Regional Training Event

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I'm returning to my hometown November 4 through 6, 2011, for a few cheesesteaks (I'm a Pat's Steaks guy), to see some childhood friends, and mostly, to share some of my insights at the inaugural Liberty Regional Training Event presented by GoForward.

While Philly is a big place, the event is being held literally in my old backyard, within an easy walk from my old house.  And I should know, I used to have to do that all the time.  I actually used to sneak into the movie theatre that is in the hotel complex downstairs from the convention center during the summer and swim (unauthorized) in the hotel pool.  Back then it was a harmless day spent being a delinquent, nowadays, someone would have you hauled off to jail.

But all that being said, I'm excited to be involved in this event and from what we are seeing so far, the excitement isn't limited to me.  And further, if this and the others planned go off well, they could end up being regular stops packed with some of the most exciting names in today's (and tomorrow's) fire service. 

So while you have a chance, sign up, join me for a few cocktails on Friday night, and especially join me during my two scheduled presentations: Zen and the Chief Officer and You Can't Make This Stuff Up.  Hopefully I will be able to meet some of you who have only been able to interact with me here.  I'm looking forward to that weekend.