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One of the blogs I follow is "The Stupid Way", which is written by an Irish lad who began practicing Buddhism and is currently living and teaching in Japan.  In a discussion on "Buddhism and God", Pete writes:

I’d always found it hard to believe in the idea of a God who had somehow created the universe from outside. So for me the Buddhist idea of God and the universe being the same thing was easier to accept. But Nishijima’s answer didn’t quite satisfy me. If God is the universe and the universe is God, then who made the universe? This, of course, is the big question. I don’t know why I wanted to ask Nishijima about it, because there's no way he could know. But I him asked anyway. He told me the Buddhist idea is that the universe has always existed.

While I am a practicing Catholic, I am open to the idea that there are ideas and practices in other religions that might extend into my own practice of faith.  Even more so, I find also that sometimes the things I learn from other religions or beliefs help me to understand my own experience with God, as well as in leading, following, dealing with conflict, etc. 

This ties into our discussion here in that I was meditating on the concept of culture change and I was struggling with the idea that a radical change in culture in an organization that is considered successful, seems even more frought with difficulty. If the culture is good, and if it exists because the nature of those involved in it is good, why should we consider change?  And why wouldn't you want to change things?  After all, we should be endlessly improving and moving forward, so even if things are good now, shouldn't we agitate for change so that we remain fresh?

If the culture is who we are, and we are the culture, how do we change that? Why do we want to walk away from something comfortable and working to go to the hard, cold unknown, where we can't even begin to know or understand what lies ahead?  

The answer to those in successful cultures is that we change because that IS our culture. 

Replacing Search K9s With Search Cockroaches?

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I don't think there is any danger in seeing Man's Best Friend replaced by Man's Disgusting Scourge anytime soon, but this report I got today on the Homeland Security Newswire indicates that more developments have come about for adapting Adam Ant for doing Lassie's work.  Instead of packing kibble for deployments, maybe we'll just be able to depend on the remnants of yesterday's MREs.  

In this case the researchers are using the Green June Beetle, but given the size of the cockroaches (or Palmetto Bugs, as we like to call them in South Carolina) I have seen, we could probably equip them with a hammer drill and let them tunnel the victims back out of the rubble once they find one.

Cyborg insects are low maintenance, can get into very restricted and virtually inaccessible areas, and with these new developments, can be adapted for a number of different tasks.  Some of these cyborg applications could also be used for monitoring hazmats or terrorist attacks, doing pre-entry search and recon for SWAT teams, or spy work.  As far as our use of these creatures, the sky (or the basement) is the limit.

Never lose sight of this constant: Change is inevitable.  It''s how we deal with it that makes the difference. What we know today as the way we do business may be radically different tomorrow.

Zen Zone #28

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There has to be a koan somewhere about the Zen Master who was the least likely to take his own advice. While the surface may be calm, underwater there can be a raging torrent, and vice-versa. Sometimes change comes hardest to those who are its biggest advocate.

There is a lot of angst in the study of change, because as you come to appreciate it for what it is, you realize that it is also painful and bitter.  People are reluctant to change when they become comfortable, and the future isn't as scary when you know what to expect.  But like every other organism, if we fail to change, we die. And sometimes with change, we die as well.  Nobody ever promised change was safe. And while change may be necessary, it's not always good.

We can smooth those waters by meditating on the center of gravity, dwelling on the concrete and pushing the abstract away.  Defining  the true nature of the problem goes a long way toward solving it.  But when you lift that rock to look underneath, you may not find what you expect to see.  And you may not like it either.

Regardless, it is a journey, which as has been said before about, requires putting one foot in front of another. Forward, not backward. Treading carefully, but feeling the ground beneath each step, you can breathe again. Time to step again.  

Zen Zone #26

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"I expected times like this – but I never thought they'd be so bad, so long, and so frequent." – Ashleigh Brilliant, Despair.com

I used to pretty much "get on my game face" when one of these babies came wandering up from the Caribbean.  These days it seems like I'm just interested in getting on with things: either hit me or don't hit me, but let's not drag this out for a few weeks as I have little patience for drama.  Then of course, along comes the quake.  While this definitely ratcheted up the tension on the already nervous, it too didn't register much with me.  I guess not much fazes me anymore. 

While there is the wisdom shared by some that this is the Apocalypse, I'll point out that this was also said about a number of previous disasters by a number of similarly-wrong prophets, hucksters, and snake-oil salesmen posing as religious leaders.  I'm watching The Weather Channel like I do throughout most of the year anyway, hoping my family located in the Mid-Atlantic is doing okay, as they are usually wondering about us when the storms are aimed a little lower.

On my way back from out of town, I found myself contemplating the possibility of a strike on my community, as we were centered nicely in the earlier forecasts.  Strangely enough, and maybe it's just a sign that I am growing older, I felt pretty peaceful about it, so long as I could assure the safety of my wife and children and as well, spare the lives of my many Island neighbors (and other communities as well, but you get what I mean).  The rest is just stuff and stuff can ultimately be replaced.  It wouldn't be easy, but so long as we have each other, we have what we need.

A story I have repeated often (and have even spoke of it here on FHZ) is one from Katrina.  I met a man who had lost everything he had. When I questioned how God could let something like this happen, he said that he was thankful, because this was God's way of showing him how many people loved him.  In retrospect, some of the most valued lessons and gifts in my life came from Katrina. That sounds pretty bizarre, but the friendships I strengthened, the people who I met and have become lifetime friends with, the opportunities for learning and sharing, and many other things as well all came from the aftermath of that terrible storm.

Let's keep the people and communities who have already been impacted by disasters all over the world, and those who are in the sights of this new threat on the horizon, in our prayers.  And let's hope that instead of despair, each individual instead finds some meaning in these tragedies, meaning that strengthens them for the rest of their lives.

 

 

Restricted Vision

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I was on the plane from Denver to Kansas City when the gentleman next to me struck up a conversation.  As it turns out, he is a retired educator and clergyman and we shared some observations on technology, especially as it related to the issue of texting.  We were laughing/struggling with the image of young people, so engrossed in texting that they were entirely distracted.  But at some point I was reflecting on the subject and began to think about it from a different perspective.  It seems to me that it is really an issue of intense concentration, to the point of restricting vision.

Being so focused on one thing, it is very easy to lose track of your surroundings.  If there is ever a scenario when situational awareness is completely hampered, it is at these moments.  Even if, as a leader, you were to "get up on the balcony" to observe from a different perspective, chances are that if your focus were so narrowed on one subject, you still might miss the subtle and even the obvious, when considering impact upon whatever is actually occurring.

Sometimes the challenges we face are so daunting or so in need of our engagement, that we forget to consider alternatives.  These issues may cause us to hone in on only the details that are immediately apparent to us, as they may jump right out and comand our attention, and cause us to lose sight of the process: to define the problem, gather the facts, consider alternatives, and implement the solution.  Instead we may become completely absorbed in whatever element of that process that causes us the most challenge and we may be paralyzed due to that restricted sightline.  And just as importantly, peripheral vision helps us to consider other factors as they intercept our path and instead of navigating away or turning to combat the issue head on, these factors take us completely by surprise.

Consider that while we may be too close to our problem to be objective, we may even not resolve that perspective by standing back from it, because we are fixed on the issue and unwilling to pay attention to subtleties.  When faced with a monumental challenge, it helps to step back from it, but it also helps sometimes to put the issue down altogether, to walk away from it and reflect, and then revisit the problem with fresh eyes.

Note: Thanks to my traveling companion for his insight and sharing his observations.  And as an FYI, depending on what Irene does, I'll probably be a little busy, so if you don't see anything on FHZ for a while, please stop back by because once I get time, I'll get caught back up again.  Thanks for reading.

Zen Zone #25

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"If you can dream it, you can do it." – Walt Disney

In between class sessions here in Colorado, Chief Ron and his wife, Linda, and I took a scenic tour of Rocky Mountain National Park by way of the Western Portal, going up to the Gore Range before turning around and going back into town.  While the park is incredible and the vistas breathtaking, it occured to us that settlers going west centuries ago must have been awestruck coming off the plains and facing this massive roadblock.

We were also listening to a talk radio show at the same time and the moderator was indicating that we are never just given the keys to leadership, we have to earn them through trial and survival.  Only after being faced with hardship and making it through do you realize that these challenges fortify you for any battles ahead.

Sitting in an air conditioned car on the paved road and using GPS to find our path, it became apparent to me that the next time I am faced with adversity, I need to consider these individuals.  How daunting it must have been, going to a land unknown to them, packing up everything they had and moving it across the Rockies to forge a better life for themselves.  Yet they not only overcame those challenges, they led the making of a new nation.  What right do I have to worry about my petty issues? 

If you believe in what you are doing, nothing can stop you. Consider the triumphs of others when given impossible odds and realize that you can do anything you dream.

Recharging

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I am here in Granby, Colorado, doing a truck company operations course for a few of the Middle Park departments.  Other than our hosts from the Grand Fire District, we have some great guys and gals also from East Grand, Grand Lake, Wheat Ridge, Vail, and Kremmling.  This is the part of my job I love: getting people who really want to do this job to another level.  Everyone in the class seems to get "it".  Chief Ron Richards, who I am teaching with, has said before, "This is missionary work.  We are spreading the word about best practices, tricks of the trade, really, the art of fighting fire." 

Do you want to recharge your batteries?  Teach.  Take what you have learned and share it with others.  You don't have to be a certified instructor to teach.  Even the lowest man on the totem pole can learn something and share it with others. Sharing knowledge changes the world.

Zen Zone #23

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"It is a fact that we live in a religiously diverse world. Religious diversity can and often does result in grave misunderstanding, hostility, and, as we know all too well, conflict, with unacceptable costs to human life and well-being." – Rita Gross, quoted in Tricycle

It isn't just religion.  It is culture.  It is physical or mental disability. It is Republican or Democrat (or independent, for some of us). It is color. It is nationality. It is vollie or career. It is urban or rural.

Before we judge anyone, we have to first understand.  Just as we are all supposed to be brothers in the fire service, we are called to be brothers on this planet as well.  Good natured ribbing is not what we are hearing these days.  There is anger, hate and bile.  Being different isn't just okay, it is encouraged.  But being different gets stigmatized because some are frightened by difference.  Or they don't understand difference.  Or they are FORCED to accept difference.  Or they march in lockstep with those who are like them, who preach hate toward those who are different.

If anyone should be more understanding about our situation, it should be people who have a shared bond.  We in the fire service have a shared bond.  Before you say something you'll come to regret someday, think about it.  Then speak from your heart, not from your gut.

Zen Zone #22

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I'm pretty sure that Man is the only creature that, having not gotten his way, destroys in the name of retribution. Maybe I'm wrong, but if a bear, were to say, go hungry, I doubt that it would go tearing up the nests of other animals out of retaliation for being hungry. No, the bear would go to the ends of the earth to find something to eat.  If an elephant is wandering and looking for water, not finding any, it doesn't seek something to annihilate out of anger; the elephant will try to solve the problem.

Of course, now that there is an aggressive move afoot by the authorities in the UK to prosecute those involved in the riots there is the push-back that perhaps these individuals have "reasons" for being hoodlums.  While I agree there is certainly an underlying mount of tension as a result of unemployment and frustration with many of the current world problems, the logic behind rioting and destroying the livelihoods of others to prove a point is amazing.  If those involved would have instead massed together to create peaceful demonstrations and block off all of London for a few days, it would have been a strong message that would have carried some weight in the world, like those of the Arab Spring protests. Instead, we see these people as opportunistic and frankly, savage.  You can frame the arguement in whatever light you'd like but the truth of the matter is that these individuals were anarchists and scumbags.  They preyed on the vulnerable for their own amusement.

If you have a problem, work to solve the problem.  If you see injustice, move to point out injustice and to illustrate it in bold colors. If you see a terrible condition, like that which is happening right now in East Africa, then strive to provide aid.  But saying that destroying property and beating innocent people is protest is ridiculous.  But it is, however, consistent with the irrational way Man looks at the world.

Move to end suffering, not through destruction, but through compassionate action.

Zen Zone #20

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Paraphrased from "Go Rin No Sho" (The Book of Five Rings), by Miyamato Musashi: "There is a time and place for use of weapons.  The best use of the companion sword is in a confined space, or when you are engaged closely with an opponent. The long sword can be used effectively in all situations.  But if you only learn these techniques, you will think narrowly and forget the true Way. You should not have a favorite tactic or weapon. To become over-familiar with one method is as much a fault as not knowing it sufficiently well. You should not copy others, but use weapons which you can handle properly. It is bad for commanders and troopers to have likes and dislikes. As a warrior, these are things you must learn thoroughly." 

Zen Zone #19

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A little Firehouse Zen humor, borrowed from the prolific author, Anonymous:  "Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings, they did it by killing all those who opposed them."

I actually do have a sense of humor, although it tends to be on the dark and dry side.  It helps to have a sense of humor about life in general, and especially in leading and in implementing change because frankly, none of this stuff ever goes smoothly.  And if it does, you can be reassured that someone is hiding something for an unwelcome surprise later.

At the heart of every successful leader is a light heart at the appropriate moments.  But as is with everything in leadership, timing and opportunity must be right.  Failure to observe that dictum can be fatal to your career and your reputation.

By the way, I know Anonymous isn't an author.  He's a spokesman for the Defense Department..  

It’s Official- Our Government Is Broken

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The events of last week have finally spurred my commentary on our political scene.  I guess I should say that it wasn't necessarily the events, per se, but the fact that while waiting for my wife to get out of the grocery store after Mass, my 10-year old daughter was asking questions and voicing her frustrations with our elected officials.  I'm not pointing fingers; there's plenty of that to go around.  But when a fifth grader can perceive the gravity of how flawed our political process is these days, we have major, major problems.

One of the most telling things she pointed out to me as I listened in awe, was that she could realize that we have "leaders" who are more interested in their ability to get re-elected than they are about running our government.  I asked Emma where she was getting all this and she indicated that she has been watching the news and overhearing conversations, and it was pretty plain to her that while our representatives are supposed to be working to keep our country great, they instead are spending their days and hours accusing each other of who screwed this mess up.

Here's news for you: you all screwed it up. WE screwed it up.  We allowed special interests, the media, and most of all, zealots on both sides of the aisle, to hijack our government.  I was listening to something the other day that stated that the Federal Election Commission, which is made up of six individuals appointed by the President and with the "advice and consent of the U.S. Senate", has been pretty much limited to people from either the Republican Party or the Democratic Party for a long time.  I tried to look this up to see if I could find if that were true, but did not see it anywhere.  However, it isn't surprising to me that it, like so much of our government these days, is about whether you are a Republican or a Democrat.

Likewise, if you want to run for anything more than a local council seat these days, you need to be either a Republican or a Democrat, or plan on coming up with the money yourself.  While that might sound like an okay idea, these days, the support for a run at political office requires funding that is grossly out of control.  Media gets their cut, through advertising. There are consultants and poll interpreters, and people are needed to print signs and to make phone calls and to chat voters up on the Internet.  Since that money has to come from somewhere, there is a certain amount of leverage that donors can exert in order to help a candidate get elected, and anyone who suggests that to be anything else but true is simply delusional.

And if that isn't enough, We, the People, aren't represented by people like us anymore.  We are represented by career politicians, ones who have no idea what the cost of a gallon of milk is, or have never had to sweat out their bills themselves.  They have people to do these things for them.  The amazing healthcare and retirement benefits these federally elected officials get are way out of our league, which is ironic, because these are the same people who have been voting down insurance reform and banking reform.  And who is getting stuck in the long run? Us.

Emma pointed out to me a big problem: "Dad," she asked, "So why won't they do the right thing and try to work together?"  And I indicated that if they did, they'd likely alienate the people who voted them in there in the first place, and when they went up for re-election they would likely lose.  She thought about that a while and said, "I thought you told me that leaders are supposed to make hard decisions sometimes, even if people don't like them afterwards.  I thought you told me that leaders have to be brave and try to do what is right for everyone, even if it means that they have to sacrifice?"

I smiled a little, but since I'm not trying to raise a cynic, I explained to her that sometimes people get sidetracked, and even though they may have the best intents, sometimes the decisions are very, very hard.  And I told her we need to pray that our leaders make decisions not based on what they gain out of the decision, but based on what is good for the Nation.  But I also reminded her that we don't always know what is best, so we have to hope we remain open-minded and willing to work cooperatively, rather than to fight with everyone.

She seemed to like that answer and she was quiet for a while. But while I was putting on a brave face, inside I was wondering, what has become of our government?  Why would supposedly mature individuals choose to take our nation to the brink of insolvency, then once done, stand around and point fingers at one another instead of working harder to try to fix this mess?  I heard conservative political heads talking this morning about how this situation is President Obama's fault, and I remember (I guess that is a long time ago and hard to remember) that the recession started when President Bush was in office.  Back when we had all the problems with the banks and insurance companies, I heard lots of blame going around, but my memory is that the fat cats have been getting fatter for not one, not two, not three, but at least four presidents ago when so much of the financial industry was deregulated.  And likewise, there is plenty of pork going around and plenty of waste, but the things that get threatened for cuts are programs like Medicare and Social Security, but I don't hear suggestions like "stop funding for other countries, especially ones who hate us", or "cut funding to try to win the hearts and minds of those who would rather see us dead".  Or maybe, "stop providing corporate welfare and get the big businesses to pay their taxes just like small businesses have to".  

Our priorities have gone out the window.  We, the People, are more interested in who wins "American Idol" than who our elected officials are going to be.  The public is so under-informed about what our elected officials actually stand for and they could care less.  It's too much trouble to click on individuals than to vote a straight party line because really, what difference is my one vote?  If any of you can't see where we are going, we can go ahead and put it into perspective for you.  Take the time to write your elected officials and make a suggestion for something you think is important, or in support of legislation that you think will improve our country.  The test is actually that I'd be willing to bet that a significant percentage don't even know who their elected officials are.

If you REALLY are a patriot and REALLY care about this country, skip flying the flag on your car and do something really meaningful.  Get to know your elected officials and make sure they are actually representing YOU, whatever political party or preference you happen to be.  And by know them, I mean, be a total pain in their ass until they realize that they don't represent Acme Chemicals or whomever is hosting that huge fundraiser this weekend, but you, your spouse, and your kids.  And call them and e-mail them frequently.  If enough people do this, perhaps, just maybe, our officials will finally understand what their jobs are: to act like adults and work together to keep our Nation the greatest in the world.

Zen Zone #18

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I'm afraid I don't know as much about Islam as I should, so I was doing some reading, as this is the time of Ramadan.  According to what I have read, Ramadan is a time for practicing self-restraint.  Some of the rules I found interesting were that practitioners are called upon to observe "piety and sobriety with less pleasures of flesh than ordinarily enjoyed." 

According to the website Albawaba, Ramadan is a time for patience, humility and spiritual cleansing. "Even when tested by others one should abstain from ill-temper & impatience."  Taking a break from our normal lives to be more civil, less intemperate, or more willing to consider other perspectives sounds like a good one to me.  In fact, it sounds a lot like what our Lenten observances should also pursue (I'm aware that we should be doing this; just utilizing a little facetiousness).

Perhaps the commenters on some of my colleagues' blogs and websites should consider these practices, not just now, but always, when engaging with others.  Today we may feel like we can do no wrong, but I can reassure you, at some point, you will really be desiring mercy and forgiveness.  At that point, maybe its a good time to reflect on the mercy and forgiveness we have given to others as well.

Zen Zone #17

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When a combatant chooses to fight intelligently, the best method is to yield to the superior force and overcome it by its own momentum.   By doing so, the one who acts first creates the momentum for their own destruction. To do this requires intelligence, understanding the adversary, and your own strengths and limitations.

Every serious engagement with others should be treated as if you are in battle.  Negotiate, propose, further an agenda of good by always considering the stance of others, understanding their needs, and working to achieve what is the best for the people you serve. Whether the individual you face is in a truly adversarial role with you is immaterial.  Combatants win because they consider the positions of the enemy they are about to engage, respect their positions, and work to use those positions to leverage the best advantage.

Not Lovin’ It

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Believe it or not, this post started out a lot longer, but I radically chopped it up and got to the point.  And lest you think this blog has gone to the evaluation of restaurants, this is actually a discussion on customer service. So just keep reading and you can catch up later.  

By the way, as a quick aside, this photo is of a "Gino's Giant".  That has no bearing on the article except that Gino's isn't either of the two Fast Food Joints discussed here.  And, of course, as a matter of disclosure, I worked for the Gino's corporation back in high school.  But I digress… 

There's this giant megacorporation I'll call Fast Food Joint "M". There's another Fast Food Joint we'll refer to as "C".  Last week I went into "M"; Between eight people on duty, not a single one, not even the cashier, even acknowledged my existence.  They made eye contact, but there was no effort to recognize that a customer was waiting alone at the counter.  Ultimately, the cashier shuffled over to the register and looked up; not a "Thanks for coming, what's your order?" or even a grunt.  Made my order, which required repeating twice.  Then upon getting the order, of course, it was wrong.  Returning to the counter, there was one person ahead of me.  They were also getting the same treatment, but it was taking even longer.  I stood there with my bag, hoping that just one of all of these people would realize, "Hey, we must have made a mistake, let me see what is going on", nope, nothing.

At "C",  the place was packed; yet there are five employees.  Everyone is hustling, taking orders and turning orders around.  The manager is even involved and as customers come up to ask for refills, she is also covering those as well.  I am spoken to by several of the employees, asked about my order, and thanked when the order is processed.  But it takes a little longer than expected, as it appears they are training one of the people in back.  The bag comes and it is correct, but I get an apology anyway.

Fast food management doesn't seem to encounter anything like this level of service at any "M" I have ever been to.  At almost every "C" I have visited, however, I sense that they have a higher purpose and they pride themselves on what is turned out.  At "M", there is plenty of hype from the corporate HQ and there are expensive promos and new restaurant styles.  At "C", the store is nice enough, but the focus is on polite manners, courteous service, and good food.  Personally, the experience at "C" is much more enjoyable.

I have gone to visit fire stations and when I walked in, other firefighters have stared at me like I was from Mars, but none ever took the time to ask me what they could help me with, or why I was there, or even to just say "Hi".  I have been in some memorable houses where I have been given gold plated tours of the facilities, coffee, offered dinner, and all before I even identified myself as a firefighter.  I realize that this last situation is pretty unreasonable, but I don't even expect that; I just ask that you address my being there, ask if there is anything you can help me with, and engage me if I happen to show an interest or have a question.

The "M" experience is not one I would ever tolerate in any of my stations.  The "C" experience is more like it.  The last time I checked the news, we, that is, the collective fire service, have a problem with getting the things we need to do our jobs.  Our staffs are being cut, stations and companies are being closed, and funding chopped.  Actually, the only thing that seems to be increasing for municipal fire departments is taxpayer frustration at what is considered an overfunded concept, coupled with what is perceived as having no tangible benefit.

Based on my consumer comparison between "M" and "C", if these were fire departments, which of these do you think I might choose to fund?  The surly, uncooperative, and overstaffed "M"? Or the pleasant, courteous, and efficient "C"?  You can polish your image all day long with fancy marketing and spiffy stores, but ultimately, if your own people don't get the concept, you are wasting your time and effort.  As leaders, we need to focus on improving the attitude of our people.  The culture of your organization, if you want to survive these lean times, should be focused on improving attitudes and making "service with a smile" the norm, not the exception. 

The Middle Way

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"Reforming public education, cutting property taxes, fixing adult and child protective services and funding our budget can all occur when Democrats and Republicans engage in consensus and cooperation – not cynicism and combat."  - Gov. Rick Perry

I never thought I'd find myself quoting Gov. Perry, but it reflects the idea of The Middle Way, especially in this time of conflict and anger.  There are many ideas that we can all agree upon and that we all hold sacred; ideas that should bond us, unite us, and cause us to realize that while we are individuals, we are also one people, and we should be working together to promote peace and prosperity, not for ourselves alone, but for all. 

Finding consensus does not call upon us to abandon our values and our beliefs, but to see the issues as affecting more than just our own little world and working together to coexist.  I observe with little humor the anger with zealots and terrorists in this world, finding it contradictory that our own leaders can't see that zealotry in their own positions.  The unwillingness by many to consider alternative views on the world's problems are simply hypocritical.  I have written many times before about the need for understanding, and even appreciation, of the culture of the adversary. This isn't a call for leaders to embrace the ideas of the opposition.  It is a call for leaders to be willing to understand that their approach to solving the problems of today may not be the only approach, nor might that approach be what is best for society as a whole.

Understanding that our personal values are not exclusive to the needs of the many is an important step toward making grown-up decisions and not simply drawing a line in the sand and saying "I've got mine".  Even when dealing with something that some people hold as unapproachable, like religious beliefs, must be qualified by realizing that at some point in our existence, perhaps before our own lives, but certainly in the history of Mankind, our own beliefs were likely considered heresy or blasphemy.  We must realize that at some point, our beliefs were cause for persecution somewhere on this globe.  And somehow, somewhere, we or our ancestors had to make hard decisions about standing for what was right and what was wrong, and learning how to live with others to continue forward.  Learning how to live with others requires the decision to accept what we can and cannot change, and create equalibrium so we can tolerate that existence, or begin to find a way to create separation so that our existence is tolerable. 

Unless you have all the power to force change in the hearts and minds of others (and you don't), you will have to understand that consensus and acceptance is necessary for peace.  That understanding is required for both sides of every issue, unless the issue is incompatible with existence, such as at the point of a gun.  In that case, you may see outward expressions of acceptance, but don't be surprised when the pot boils over later.

Understanding consensus is an important part of leading.  If you can't help others to understand that and to bring them together on serious issues, and you continue to refuse any efforts toward working together, you can reassure your position to be under attack the moment you let your guard down.  As any good tactician will point out for you, while you may not immediately have the resources to combat your opposition, when the center of gravity changes and the opportunity presents itself, to not attack is folly. So to be a leader who thinks that he was able to shove change down someone's throat and to not expect retaliation is to be entirely delusional.

If you really want peace and understanding, work toward those efforts and help to educate those who oppose you, while understanding their beliefs and appreciating those values as well.  We may not always agree, but we can be respectful and we can work toward living together and sharing the things we do hold important together.

Zen Zone #13

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We took Caroline on a Ferris Wheel for the first time, along with her two sisters.  It was big and there was a lot of commotion with the crowd and the other rides.  She was tentative at first and I was watching her eyes as she was taking it all in.  She sat in my lap and clung to me in fear as we made the first few rounds.  While she was crying, it wasn't hysterical crying, and we all kept reassuring her until she finally turned around and saw the Ocean City Boardwalk's lights and sights trailing off to the north.  She dried her eyes and was immediately enthusiastic.  By the time she got off the ride, she was so excited she could hardly contain herself.

By opening her eyes and realizing that there were people sharing her experience and reassuring her through the process of the change, she took a good look at her new perpective and understood the additions to her environment were good ones.  She could see many more things, the breeze was delightful, and we were all around her.  She took a leap of faith, unsure of what opening her eyes would entail, and found a whole new world.

Change, often enough, requires risk.  There is the risk of danger and harm, but more often than not, it is the risk that things will not be the way they once were, which is uncomfortable and scary in its own right.  Let go of the past and look forward.  You can't improve on what was, but you can always make the future better by being there for it.

Zen Zone #11

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Paraphrased from Zhuge Liang in Mastery of the Art of War:

“Thus the intelligent think because of this; the mettlesome fight because of this: Where you see the enemy to be empty, proceed; where you see the enemy to be full, stop. Do not look down on others because of your own elevated rank. Do not oppose the common consensus with personal opinions. Do not turn from the loyal and trustworthy through the artifices of the skilled but treacherous. Do not sit down before the soldiers sit; do not eat before the soldiers eat. Bear the same cold and heat the soldiers do; share their toil as well as their ease. Experience sweetness and bitterness just as the soldiers do; take the same risks that they do. Then the soldiers will exert themselves to the utmost, and it will be possible to destroy enemies.

Advance and retreat are a matter of timing- military affairs are not directed by the ruler but by the general.  Therefore, in war, there is no heaven above, no earth below, no adversary ahead and no ruler behind.  If generals can be like this, people will be willing to fight when they give the orders, and the enemy will be defeated before any blood is shed.  Look upon your soldiers as beloved children, and they will willingly die with you.”

Zen Zone #10

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Before we engage others, we must first engage ourselves. If we do not understand our own desires, strengths and weaknesses, how are we to understand the same in others.  When we see conflict, the first place we should look is in our own heart.  First ask, "What might I have done to make this happen?  What possible issue could someone have with my position?"  If we can see things from the other person's perspective, we can better understand.

Even if, after serious introspection, we find ourselves to be in the right, the act of looking at our argument from another perspective can provide us with insight to help win the minds of others.  If you can understand the conflict from the eyes of the adversary, it too can help us to understand our own desires, strengths and weaknesses. 

Zen Zone #7

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Successful change depends on strong leadership. Be open to different ways of collaborating. People process change differently and we must recognize and acknowledge the dynamics of change. Change is uncomfortable and many respond to it as a loss. Being open minded to other perspectives will entice creative responses to the issues.  But importantly, we must acknowledge that to begin something new, we have to end what was. Let go of the old identity and embrace the new one.

 

 

Zen Zone #6

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Sun Tzu was not a king or a member of any of the principal families of nobles.  He earned his reputation as a mercenary warlord after a friend recommended him to the court of the King of Wu.  As legend has it, the King asked Master Sun if he could train anyone, even concubines. Master Sun said he could; when the women refused to obey his commands he had their leaders beheaded. After that, all of them performed flawlessly.

When you say "I can't", is it a result of not knowing or not willing?

Buddy or Boss?

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Occasionally in a new batch of officers, that dilemma is brought up.  "How can I be that officer I always looked up to, yet not alienate my friends?"  Well, here's the down and dirty; It can never be the same again.  A friendship is built upon a foundation of equality and trust.  And depending on the level of leadership you happen to be in, there are differences between the leader and the follower that transcend the ability to appreciate strategic vs. tactical decision making.  On a day to day basis, this relationship may not be an issue.  In the long run, however, I can guarantee you that you will be required to make a decision in the best interest of the whole that isn't going to sit well with a particular outlook, and that friendship will undergo some serious challenges.  

 I have heard all the arguments.  While you may be saying, "I'm currently friends with my supervisor and everything is fine", my response is that if this is the case, you are doing well.  Many bosses say they can remain objective, and fail miserably.  If your "friend/boss" would still call you in the office and read you the riot act just like he or she would to anyone else when you deserve it, then perhaps you are onto something.  And if you have that kind of relationship with your officer, I think it is great.  But it's like I have alluded to in a number of posts, these three simple rules of supervisor/subordinate relations must come to bear:

  1. I am your boss.
  2. If we can maintain that relationship and we can both be objective when it comes time to be, great, I'll be your friend too.  
  3. If not, see Rule 1.

If you are the informal leader of a group and suddenly, you are the boss, it is going to put an amazing strain on your relationships with these individuals unless you are willing to stand back from the emotion and do your job.  

Let's go back to a little comparison and contrast.  Think about being a parent of young children.  You can be a parent and make the occasionally tough decisions that leave your children angry with you and while it hurts, you know you are doing the right thing.  But you can't be their friend and do that: friends are equals, contemporaries, peers.  If you were to approach a sticky issue with your child as a friend, do you really believe for a second that they will respect your authority?  

If you are a truly enlightened leader, the whole point in having authority is to use it to lead, coach, educate, and direct others.  If you don't believe that to be true then maybe you should take a long look at your relationships in that regard.  That's not to say, again, that you can't be a friend to your child.  As individuals mature emotionally, they recognize logic and the difference between right and wrong.  They have experiences that permit you to engage them and they can learn on their own.  But in dealing with those who are ambivalent about the difference, or have immature tendencies, or simply lack experience in understanding the difference, if you act as a friend rather than as a parent, don't be overly surprised if your children make the wrong choices because you were overly permissive in the attempt to be their friend.

I have myself been guilty of allowing a friendly relationship to cloud my view of how an individual is performing, or in some cases, even in how I respond to their actions when I give them news they don't care to hear, or challenge them with a task they think is objectionable.  I have a tremendous amount of respect for team cohesion and I understand and encourage cohesion as a force multiplier.  But there is a delicate balancing point between cohesion and fraternization.  In an emotionally mature adult, the lines can blur a little more because individuals can process the logic.  In the less mature adult, sometimes what seems to be logical is instead addressed with a great deal of emotion.

As a boss, you will have to make decisions that are occasionally not well recieved by the troops, especially if you are the one who is pushing for change in organizational culture.  As we have also said repeatedly, change is not something that comes easily in a lot of cases.  If it were, it would happen all the time and without resistance.  Consider the fact that you can be an honest, fair, and educated boss that people like to work with, have a lot of respect for, and consider a "friend".  But ultimately, when the hard part of the job comes into view, part of having integrity as a leader is reaffirming to the troops that you will always act in the best interest not of the organization or the personnel, but in the interest of the customers you serve.  If you can do that, no decision you make will be wrong, and people may disagree, but will have to do so respectfully, because service to the customers is the ultimate objective.  

Do yourself a favor as well as your subordinates. Choose what is best to serve the customers you are charged with providing for.

Zen Zone #4

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Every movement in the grass is a potential meal for a hawk.  Every boat in the sea, when it comes up on a submariner's radar, is a potential target.  Every plane in the sky, to a fighter pilot, a potential combatant.

Every chance we have to engage is an opportunity.  When we see a building, it is burning.  When we see someone sick or wounded, a patient.  When we see a hazard, it is a rescue.  When we see a leadership vacuum, it is a chance to lead.

To the warrior, every opportunity is an opportunity to learn.  Failing to seize those opportunities shows a lack of resourcefulness.

Zen Zone #3

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My youngest daughter came to me this morning with a sponge she said was "broken". When I looked at it, I showed her it was dried and cracked, but when we wet it, it became useful again. Each of us is like this; when we are unused, we dry up and become stale. When we add experiences, education, observation, we become renewed and pliable again. Honora looked at me and said she knew that already.

This idea isn't new to any of you either. So why do we continue to resist it?

You Can Quote Me On That (Before 2010)

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I was driving down the road the other day and thinking, you know, I too could have a list of quotes, just like the real writers have. So in the interest of filling up a page of useless knowledge, I went back to FHZ from September of 2008 to December of 2009 and I also threw in a few notable statements I made way back on the old Firehouse Forums as a member of the IACOJ, before some of you were born, I think. 

Now, I do read a lot and listen to podcasts, etc. and I will check my quotes with a deep internet search to make sure I haven't stolen someone else's ideas, but I'm pretty sure I said this stuff at one time or another.  I also left off anything I paraphrased (I hope) and added some stuff that exists in unpublished posts (there are a few dozen of those).  Believe it or not, we here at FHZ have standards.  They are low, but we do have standards.  

So here you are, from the beginning of FHZ, some of the more memorable ones:

  • "When I give you an order, I want to see it done, or your dead body where you died trying to do it."
  • "Never eat more than your mask can hold."
  • "I am not your friend, I am your boss. If you want to be friends, that's okay, but that doesn't change the fact that I am your boss first."
  • "The company officer is the designated adult supervision in the station. Act like it."
  • "There won't be a group hug at the end of this. I don't do Kumbaya."
  • "When I call for a resource I'm gonna give you type and kind. If I call for a Lincoln-ful of Panamanians, I don't care where you got it, just give me the closest one."
  • "Let's put this in terms you can understand: Confined space rescue is nothing more than HAZMAT on a rope."
  • "Being a truckie requires resourcefulness. You are presented with a problem no one else knows how to fix and you fix it with what you brought to the party or what you can swipe. After that, it's all magic."
  • "Individuals have given themselves the freedom to make poor decisions, then be let off the hook because we 'shouldn't judge them', or because their mommy didn't hug them as a child, or whatever the victim story is this week." (Okay, I just used that one again the other day).
  • "The base cause of indignity is usually the result of inconsiderate behavior." (Oh, and that one is new. But I liked it).
  • "Conflict in life is inevitable. Conflict escalation and intractability is not." (Alright, that one is new as well.  Back to the old stuff).
  • "There's enough ugly going on around us right now without our own people bringing it down on us."
  • "Each of us should be serving as a positive example of how to do the job, volunteer or career, and without acting like a bunch of amateurs and whackers."
  • "The important part in our lives, really, isn't necessarily what we can fill up our minds with at every moment, but about creating space to let more in."
  • "There are a few things that you should raise the stakes for, like your faith, your family, and your country.  But when faced with an unwinnable scenario and a profound lack of resources, sometimes it is best to save what you can save and live to fight on another day."
  • "Where t = tempo, r = resources and f = frustration: increasing t multiplied by decreasing r = exponential increase in f."
  • "The taxpayers in your community ultimately decide what level of service they want.  If they are insistent that giving you no resources is okay, then they have to be educated to what extent that investment will reap disaster.  Risk is proportionate to return."
  • "There are other sides to every argument that get squashed by the rush of the ADD crowd to comment.  Don't fall into the trap of the unenlightened.  Think before you post."
  • "I can think of no rational society that thinks it is okay to screw the disadvantaged for the benefit of the privileged.  Taking advantage of the less fortunate is simply bullying."
  • "When we use the phrase 'customer service", if that's not appealing to you, try saying it like this: 'doing what is right for our neighbors and the people who visit and work in our community'.  That should be a little more pleasant."
  • "Successful coaches match schemes to personnel, not vice-versa."
  • "If you are going to successfully implement change in your organizational culture, there should be a reluctance to be where you were and a desire to get where you are going."
  • "I'm pretty sure that when my ticket , I'm not going to be quoted saying something profound, poetic, or heroic.  It is likely going to be something that can't be repeated around children or the faint-hearted."
  • "If we really want our industry to recognized as professional, it requires consistent conduct that is professional."
  • 'Legitimate power, in the sense of leading others, is limited to the amount of leverage the followers will permit."
  • "Tansformative leadership requires commitment, honesty to self, and an understanding of the world.  It's yours if you can embrace change, open yourself up to it, and set the example to others."
  • "Our business is too dangerous to leave the teaching to amateurs."
  • "Perhaps if you guys are going to fight fire like you are in the '70's, you should be paid like we were then too."
  • "If as a team, you can't agree on the destination, someone needs to get out of the car. Ultimately, getting to the destination requires assessment, negotiation, understanding, cooperation, and ends with commitment."
  • "More often than I care to, my 'command presence' comes out at inopportune times, like when I am talking to my wife (she doesn't like it), my kids (they're not crazy about it either), or my colleagues (they probably think I'm insufferable anyway)."
  • "If you fail to illustrate a clear picture of who is in charge, someone else will come in and fill that drawing in for you."
  • "Sometimes the best we can do is to pin it down to the neighborhood of origin, if that's what was burning when we got there."

Since at some point perhaps I'll add another page of these for the next years, if one of the sentences I uttered strikes a chord with you, point it out to me and I'll add it.  I'm all about customer service.  Until next time, thanks for reading.