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Merry Christmas – A Call to Lead

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I really didn't notice until now, but this is the 300th post on Firehouse Zen.  Since I'm not churning out three or four a day (or even a week), that's pretty astounding to me.  And what better time of the year to celebrate, than during the celebration of Christ's birth, as well as a number of other religious holy days and observances.  It is definitely a time to celebrate, although given the tumult of this year, I would expect many to argue otherwise.

How is it that I can be even remotely positive?  Well, things pop up that cause me to think deeply about what it is we are called to do and how we go about it.  For example, I'm sitting here in our warehouse at a workstation I'm not normally at, planning on a quick Zen Zone post.  Instead, my eyes are drawn to a page from the publication Our Daily Bread, folded open to where one of our colleagues has apparently put it for inspiration.  In response to Isaiah 26:1-9 - "You will keep him in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you" – it reads, "When we put our problems in God's hands, He puts His peace in our hearts."

I found a certain amount of peace during my most challenging periods in life. This year I think I have failed to do that on many occasions. I found myself arguing internally with what I have been taught and what I have seen.  In the very beginning of this year, we witnessed tremendous suffering among many and callousness of those who profited from that suffering.  We experienced great disasters, we experienced personal loss, and we experienced challenges to values we considered to be right.  And we continue to be faced with hypocrisy, profiteering, and greed, while a great many simply gawk at the problems and assume someone else will save us. 

In speaking about the strength of belief before, I pointed out that belief can be very powerful and even dangerous.  Conversely, belief can be life-changing, inspirational, and healing.  I know first hand of instances where profound belief, even in complete contradiction to science, has proven to be miraculous.  A mentor of mine, whose wife has been dealing with congenital heart and lung malformations for decades, was told he would lose his wife if she were not to have a heart and lung transplant.  This was back around 1983 or so that he as told this.  She is still with us, and science hasn't been able to justify any reason why.  But I can assure you, she and her husband are examples of people with a tremendous amount of faith.  You can't look at them and knowing all they have been through, think anything other than faith heals.

We can't answer a lot and science tries daily to put our lives into context, only to open more questions. I heard once that when asked about the schism between science and faith, a researcher said that you can't be a scientist and not believe, because when one door is opened, it just seems to reveal more doors.  Life itself is still too complex to even be answered by science.

Belief is more than about religion.  Belief transcends religion.  In my eyes, religion is just a way for us to frame the existence of God in a manner we can understand.  We have no way of knowing if and when any of the world's religions are right or wrong, but they all certainly have the shared themes of justice, discipline, and virtue, among other qualities.  In these shared values we should all be working toward a better existence rather than trying to decide how we are going to divide up the globe.

In looking back on the issues that faced us in 2011, I found much in the way of rhetoric from our leaders and very little in the way of solutions.  In an amazing year when solutions should have been pursued to make lives easier, political, religious, governmental, non-governmental, and educational leaders failed their followers on any number of occasions.  And when a leadership vacuum occurs, something is going to fill the void.  In our case, I'm not sure I like the looks of that eventuality.

I choose to believe that there are people out there who really care about others and care to make our world a better place to live.  I believe that there are those who are good and just individuals and will fight to preserve the rights of those who can't fight for those rights themselves, those being the young, the elderly, the poor, and the oppressed.

Leadership starts at the roots.  If you are a leader, it doesn't start at the moment you hit the firehouse doors, it is a life choice.  If you are truly a leader, you live it at home, in your work, in your church, in your community.  At this time in our lives, we really need good leaders.  We need those of you with values that encourage hard work, belief in others, justice, and civility to step forward and take on some of these pseudo-leaders.  This isn't an issue of what party you are a member of, or what church you attend, or what school you graduated from.  It is an issue of being an example for those who need to see what an example of good leadership is, of being a good steward of your community, and of serving others.

When 2012 rolls around, I am hoping that those of you who read this share it with those who can also fill the post, and each of you pass it along to create a new "virus" of good, not evil; love, not hate; of peace and fairness; of prosperity for those who strive for it and earn it rather than for those who happen to have access to the backroom deals. 

This should not be a time of anarchy.  Anarchy is definitely NOT what we need right now.  We need leaders who understand what their followers are going through and are empathetic.  We need people to stand up to the bullies and to advocate for those who need it most.  We need to be tolerant of each other and have the difficult conversations without those conversations lapsing into angry diatribes and accusations.  We need leaders who believe in the good to rise up and to cause positive change to the status quo.

In this season of celebration, our entire world should be celebrating the changes that came about when the oppressed finally shrugged off their bonds, in places like Egypt, Libya, and many others.  We need to allow those who will speak against the entrenched to do so, even in our own nation, without fear of persecution.  But regardless, we have to believe in one another, we need to have faith, and we need to be looking right now to whatever we believe in to help bring us together, because we are all one people, and we should be sharing our burdens to lighten the load, picking up some of the load for others who need help, and being a real member of the human race, not just a sheep pretending to be.  Actions speak louder than words.  Do something in 2012 to help others.

If you are doubting in the events happening around our world, contemplate what is really happening around you.  Realize that there are deep, deep connections we have to one another and that nobody, not even those religious or scientific, can explain how they work.  But if we can have faith in others, in ourselves, and in a higher being, however it manifests itself, we can reflect on those problems and work toward a better solution. Even when things seem dark, take a moment and meditate on what you are being presented wth, understand it, and see it for what it is.  Every door we open is to another room with other doors.  Create opportunity, focus on the goal, and move forward.

 

Zen Zone #39

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Sometimes You Just Have To Laugh

"Do I look like a cat to you boy? Am I jumpin' around all nimbly bimbly from tree to tree? Am I drinking milk from a saucer? DO YOU SEE ME EATING MICE?" – Trooper Foster, Super Troopers

Sometimes you just have to laugh.  That's a quote, too, from The Wonderpets. If you take yourself too seriously, you won't be much fun to be around.  But laughter has many other benefits, one of which is the ability to improve your outlook and increase your positivity.  At some point when things are pretty bad and you have a moment to yourself, reflect on something you find funny about the situation.  And it should go without saying that I stress "to yourself" because when things get pretty bad, sometimes the attempt at humor isn't shared.

However, having a smile to yourself, even in private, works wonders.  And like Springsteen once said, "Someday we will look back and it will all seem funny". Note that he specifically didn't say it would "be" funny.  Seeing even some dark humor in a bad event can sometimes at least help you cope. And in our business, being able to cope means that you can live for another day.

Keep it together and watch out for one another.  Stay safe during this holiday season.  And find time to laugh.

What I Thought It Would Really Be About

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Years ago (and when I look back on it, it WAS years ago), when I signed onto what was then a fledgling internet forum on fire service issues, I imagined a place on line similar to some of the think-tank type collaborations I have at times, found myself participating in.  You know, or maybe you don't: beer, talk about deeper issues of the business, stimulating thought, laughter, and long-term friendships.  I have seen some pretty crazy ideas come out of some of those live skull sessions and revolutionize the way we operate emergency services in this nation.

I remember joining with some of the other internet monsters at the time to discuss a certain firefighter training fatality that didn't have to happen.  And while the discussions got hot sometimes, we were forging into uncharted territory.  As a result, I have "met" people on the internet who have inspired me and kept me going on some of my ventures, as I hope I have done the same for. Some of you may even recall those days, in the early days of the International Association of Crusty Old Jakes.  I wasn't a plank holder, but they quickly welcomed me in and I was humbled to be allowed to come join in their side conversations. 

A recent project I am working on has brought me together with some principals in the business and we are spinning an idea we had into something that could be so, so cool.  And we're playing with it.  And the conversation is light, thoughtful, and insightful.  It's really what I want, it is really what I thought this all would really be about. I enjoy having insightful conversation with people who get it.  I know not everyone does, so I am also happy to talk to those people.  But when the party gets crashed by the loud, the obnoxious, the pretenders, and the wannabes, it is then that I move along.  But that's the beauty of this place here, Firehouse Zen, I guess.  We haven't drawn interest from that crowd, so it's comfortable, it's entertaining, and I like the people I'm hanging with.  And a few of the projects I am working on right now seem to be moving in the same direction.

If you want to recharge your batteries, hang out with those who engage you and challenge you, but enjoy being with them. It's enjoying these people that gives you the energy to create.

Defending Against Bullies

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There are some things going on in our world today that I have come to believe are intolerable.  There are a faction of those in our society who don't understand that their "screw everyone else" mentality is drawing us closer and closer to a breaking point.  The sad part is that I don't believe that they even care.

There are few in this world who really know me.  I mean REALLY know me.  But if there's something I want you to understand, it's that I have no political leanings.  There's no reason for me to follow one party or another. I have no loyalties that encumber me to some faceless entity with a meaningless list of planks that I either ascribe to or I am not invited. And while this is supposed to be a blog about change and leadership, it is for this reason I am even writing this today.

But I resent like hell that when I speak my mind about something, I have people out there who pigeonhole me into whatever little category they wish in order to say their piece.  The truth is, I don't really care what someone has to say except that these days, if you happen to be openminded enough to listen to those who oppose the status quo, you get labeled unpatriotic.  Or liberal.  Or radical. Or socialist. Or traitorous.

So let me tell you a little about myself, for reasons that will become quite clear later.

I am a white male in my late forties who has held a meaningful job for over thirty years.  Throughout most of my life, I have actually held more than one job.  I am a college graduate and have some postgraduate level courses in my transcript.  I am a practicing Catholic and go to Mass at least once a week with very rare exception.  

I have voted Republican in more than one presidential election. I am a member of organizations that people would consider conservative, however, I by no means define myself as conservative or liberal.  I do not support the "distribution of wealth" that is constantly suggested as being the case if you happen to support the current President, and I do not for a moment believe he supports it either, although there are plenty of people out there who love to repeat that.  

When I was graduating high school, I scored well enough on the ASVAB that the Marine Corps came calling.  The VERY HOT blonde female recruiting sargeant told me I could have whatever MOS I wanted.  I rode with her over to Parris Island, right across the Port Royal Sound from where I live, and spent a few days over there getting toured and poured.  I was going to sign on the dotted line when in the course of a week, not one, but TWO of my close friends, who were both in the Corps, told me about how they got screwed on their placement. I chose to take the job I was offered at the fire department instead.  It turned out to be a game-changer.  But I have no hard feelings, in fact, I often wonder how things might have been different.

When the Towers fell, I was in shock.  When I learned 343 of my brothers died, I cried.  When I heard who had done it, I was okay with waterboarding or hooking electrodes up to testicles, or whatever it took to find these pieces of shit, hunt them down, and kill them one by one.  But when our government began to use those powers against other people for their own agendas, including against American citizens who really had nothing to do with terror, I found that I wasn't so willing to allow the games to continue.  But it didn't change my mind that we should hunt these f**kers down and kill them where they stood, even if it was in a friendly nation. 

Likewise, while I think we should be striving for peace and we should be helping our brothers, especially the less fortunate, when someone runs down a firefighter (or anyone else) in the street, or bites an EMT (or anyone else) who is trying to help them, I'm also okay with dragging the individual out the open window of the car and beating the snot out of them, or knocking the jerk's teeth out with a PR-24 so he won't bite anyone else.  Or if someone fires an RPG at one of our troops then hides in a church or a mosque, I say, go get 'em. A saying I have always liked: "Don't f**k with me, and I won't f**k with you.  If you hurt me, I will hurt you.  Bad."  

So as far as I am concerned, anyone who wants to characterize "all" of the supporters of the Occupy Movement as "unwashed", "jobless", left-wing", "nut job", "lowlifes",  can pretty much STFU.  And just because we are willing to listen doesn't mean that we support or reject their ideas either.

I have no idea what the Occupy Wall Street movement wants.  God bless 'em, but I'm not even sure THEY completely know what they want.  I am closely following some of the Occupy feeds, because I find it interesting and I find that I can identify with some of their points.  And I have made friends with some of the leaders, who frankly, have been pretty damn interesting. Conversely, I have also been reading some of the posts by those who don't even try to understand what it is the movement is about and tried to engage them, which has had a pretty predictable outcome.  You can't argue with someone who has already made up their mind.

So I hate to recite the disclaimer line, but it bears mentioning for clarity's sake.  I believe in hard work and honest work. I was raised in a family that didn't have money, so we worked hard to make our money.  When I ultimately married, my wife and I ate (and still do) a lot of grilled cheese sandwiches and drove old cars so we could put money away for a nice home and to send our children to college.  And we have invested in America, even though right now, it doesn't seem like America wants to invest much in me or my loved ones.

I don't want the rich to give up their worldly possessions.  I just ask that if I do what I was told would get me ahead in life, that I at least won't have what little I do have taken away.  And I'm not necessarily saying that we need a "level playing field", whatever that is, but I sure as hell don't consider insider trading, influence peddling, and corporate thuggery to even be playing in the same stadium.  And I also sure as hell don't believe that when I support a bail-out (which I did) of our "too-big-to-fail" corporations, that I should see those same individuals being rewarded with cushy bonuses during a time when my brother firefighters and cops haven't had a raise in three years (although we got a 1% increase last year) or worse, are being laid off.  

But don't blow smoke up my ass and tell me it's sunshine, because frankly, the private sector has done a phenomonal job screwing us all between insurance, the banking and mortgage industries, and environmental protection.  I'm a cynic: "Trust, but verify."  (That's an old Reaganism, for some of you who don't realize that). I do not support the belief that socialism in any aspect is better than any other solution.  Working very closely with the state and federal governments, I know first hand that if there were a private partner that could effectively and ethically handle much of the service government provides, it would be better.  However after watching Halliburton's (and others) handling of our War on Terrorism, I am convinced more now than ever that there are those who wage war not to help nations rise and be self-sufficient, but to line their already full pockets.

I believe our federal and state governments have  managed to screw up everything they have gotten their hands on.  However, I have seen the private sector screw things up worse, and with a lot more greed and disloyalty to our nation than any bureaucrat could ever manage.  I'll take my chances, in certain things, with the government, because then at least we have some control over firing someone.  

Our nation has a chosen few who exploit their position of power to enrich themselves to the detriment of many, and have no problems sleeping at night.  They give no thought nor support to people being forced out of their homes, into bankruptcy, or becoming jobless.  But while I try to consider the fact that while I may not agree with what someone has to say, I realize that they are individuals, people with families, people who go to church (or not) or work alongside others in a community (or not), they have the right to be treated with some dignity, even though that treatment doesn't appear to be reciprocal.  But when I see brother public safety "professionals" beating defenseless individuals, or pepper-spraying them as they sit on a sidewalk, some of the offenses by those in power that have been brought to light seem even more despicable and more arrogant as they are actions being taken against those who we are supposed to be protecting.    

I've never let a bully act out against someone who wouldn't or couldn't defend themselves.  The anarchists who hide inside activist movements are simply provacateurs, with no agenda other than to destroy and to incite hate.  Like in the instance with the guy who bit the cop the other day, there ARE some people who should have the crap beat out of them.  But these individuals are just a few among the real activists, those who are pushing for peace and fairness, who unfortunately, get swept up in the tide.  If anything, we should be able to identify with being painted with a broad brush; anyone in public service should be upset when people talk about how terrible government is.  Just as we despise the inference that our jobs as firefighters are the cause for all of our taxpayer woes, those who are peacefully agitating for justice I'm sure are angry that there are those who abuse their right to free speech by acting aggressively.

I am not the first to say it, but the irony that the Occupy movement is embraced by those who have abused their power the worst (certain politicians) and is lionized by people whose ideals most agree with their basic tenets (the Tea Party) is profoundly amusing, but completely indicative of how obtuse some people are.  Our elected officials are so busy pulling to the right or to the left that they have abandoned the rest of us: those of us in the middle. And there are many, many individuals who have aligned themselves either as Democrats or Republicans who follow zombie-like to their message when the real message is this; we will tell you what to think, and you need to shut up and listen.

I'm not sure that the Occupy movement is all of what it was intended to be.  There are a lot of people suffering in this world at the hands of a few.  I don't for a minute believe the distribution of wealth is the answer, although detractors seem to make it as if it is.  No, what I would like is an equal chance to prove that hard work and investment will give my family a nice home, a decent car, and that our kids will go to the college of their choice.  But when you can manipulate markets, create back-room deals, and obtain insider information at the expense of the rest of us, or ask us to bail you out and you instead use the money to give raises to your executives and lay off the working stiffs, then you are not one of us, you are one of them.

While you all are busting your ass tonight on your third fire alarm activation, or taking Granny to the hospital, consider that there are those, those who are laughing at you right now, thinking that they'll be fine because we are too dumb to do anything about it, while advocating cutting our benefits, laying off brothers, closing up fire stations, or defunding necessary equipment and programs.  But hey, let's not raise the spectre of changing things because that wouldn't be "patriotic".

I'm not asking you to support the Occupy movement or to come down on it.  I'm asking you to think and digest what is going on in our world right now and come to a belief not on what you are being told to think, but on what you value and you observe to be the truth.  Then, considering that others can disagree with you and not bully you into their own ideas, agree that what we really do need is insightful, considerate action toward bringing our nation together, and taking care of our neighbors, before we end up in a new civil war.

We have people who are in power who act irresponsibly and say things that are blatantly inflammatory and throw out as a defense of their ignorance that they were divinely inspired to run for office.  And if, God forbid, we speak out, assemble, or otherwise oppose their beliefs, we are "anarchists", "socialists", "un-American" and "unpatriotic".  And if we were to speak out, like our forefathers once did, we should be run off of public property for holding rallies to say the things we see as important.

I'm aware this is a very long post, but I have been chewing on it for quite a while.  The reality is that many are willing to lay down and take a beating from those who don't give a flying f**k about whether you have a job, a home, or your next meal because they are sheep, not leaders.  If you are willing to deny the right to speak and assemble to those who seek justice, then you are sheep, not  leaders.  If you can sit there with a straight face and suggest that "we the people" are being appropriately represented, that we have "leaders" who are serving OUR interests and not the interests of corporations and the elite, and suggest that we have been supporting our most vulnerable populations: the elderly, the young, the disabled, and even more, our veterans, then there is nothing I can say to change your mind.

When did our nation become a gathering of those who tolerated bullies?  Our whole existence has been predicated upon fairness and justice, compassion for the downtrodden, for the underdogs, for the needy, for the victims and the persecuted.  But I guess these days if "you've got yours", then it's okay to say, "screw everyone else."  If that isn't being a bully, I don't know what is.

Don't criticize what you don't understand.  And even then, if you find yourself to be in a position of understanding, realize that it's still just your perception.  A little openmindedness and willingness to see from someone else's point of view would go a long way.

Attributes of Generals

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Zhuge Kongming said, "Advance and retreat are a matter of timing- military affairs are not directed by the ruler but by the general. Therefore, there is no heaven above, no earth below, no adversary ahead and no ruler behind. If generals can be like this, people will be willing to fight when they give the orders, and the enemy will be defeated before any blood is shed. Look upon your soldiers as beloved children, and they will willingly die with you.

I don't need my people to die with me to do their job, but look at it more along the lines of discipline and respect.  "When you can be like this", your people will follow you wherever you need them to go and will do whatever it takes to create success.  This has been my credo for a very long time.  Whenever I get a new officer under me, I share it with them and explain the meaning of it.

Once someone asked one of my colleagues if I really lived this stuff or if I was full of crap.  My colleague told me he said I not only talked the talk, but walked the walk.  It's one of the finest compliments I think I have ever heard.  I try to lead with integrity and while I expect much from my people, I know they expect much from me as well.  I am not kidding when I say that I am truly embarrassed when I let them down somehow, and that does happen from time to time.

Try to lead as if not only your life depends upon your ability to command, but as if your subordinates' lives do too, because their lives DO depend on it.  Learn your craft, know how to lead and command, and strive for excellence.

 

Sacrifice

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Okay, let's talk about sacrifice. My wife, who is already suffering a post-Nepal-trip flu, fell asleep on our couch last night. At zero-dark-thirty this morning, our youngest daughter, Honora, woke up with similar symptoms. She went downstairs, curled up next to Kathleen on the couch and kept her awake for the remaining portion of the morning.  Kathleen did not wake me up, though she had an eight o'clock appointment with a client. By the time I woke up, she had Honora under control, got ready for work, then came downstairs and helped Emma, our oldest, create a faux buckskin tablecloth for her school project on indigenous cultures.  Between all of this, of course, she was also engaging our middle child, Caroline, who didn't want to be left out of the excitement.

The point of sharing this information is not to celebrate my wife's profound dedication to our daughters, although it is amazing and deserving of such praise.  The point is that true leadership requires sacrifice.  Real leaders don't just mail it in when they are tired, or sick, or having a bad day.  They put others first and they continue soldiering on.

Sacrifice is often associated with the Supreme Sacrifice, that of laying your life down for others.  I suggest that to lay down your life for others is different than laying your life down BECAUSE of others, as the former implies you are trading your life for theirs and the latter that you are simply dying with them.  I'm not going to go into the issues I alluded to yesterday, about not wanting to leave your fallen brother.  What I am getting at is that the act of laying your life down FOR another implies a trade, or the meaning of sacrifice in that you do something so that someone else can gain something.

My wife could have sent Honora to wake me up and continue sleeping, which she should have, but she did not.  My wife could have told Emma to suck it up, to figure out her project herself, but she did not.  She could have told Caroline to leave her alone, because she didn't have the time, but she did not.  She took one for the team, she did what she did, and she showed our daughters what it is that mothers do.  They sacrifice.

As an officer, you are called to sacrifice as well.  If you don't, you are just one of the gang.  You have to put on your game face and do what needs to be done, not only because it is your job, but as a leader, you have to lead.  You have to be in front, showing people the way.  You have to provide positive examples for your team.  You have to engage, coach, correct, reinforce, teach, and mentor.  This all requires time.  It requires patience.  It requires understanding your people and what motivates them.

Transformational leadership doesn't come about by simply telling someone what to do and expecting compliance.  It is the difference between catching the fish and teaching someone how to catch fish, as the saying goes.  It is one thing to catch the fish, it is entirely another to take the time to teach someone to do it for themselves.  But this sacrifice of time, if correctly applied, is an investment in the future.

When you think about leadership and stewardship, they are basically the same thing.  They involve "taking care" of something, usually people.  Leading can come about because you simply happen to be the person at the front of the line. But real leadership comes from knowing where to take that line and how to avoid pitfalls along the way.  That requires caring about everyone else and shepherding them to the final destination.  And because it requires you to do MORE than just following, it is in itself, sacrifice.

We can exist or we can take action.  We can take up space on this planet or we can work to make it a better place.  If you are reading this, except for those of you I shame into reading my articles because you are close friends or relatives, you are likely interested in learning more about leadership.  So I don't believe that existence is sufficient for what you have in mind.  Take hold of the standard, put it up high where others can see it, and advance. If you are doing it right, others will follow.  When they see you are willing to sacrifice, they may even offer to carry that flag for you.  And when they can create the same momentum, that, THAT is leadership.

Zen Zone #34

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It is one thing to create art, it is yet another to create art that inspires others to create art.  It is one thing to be supportive, yet another to be activist.  It is one thing to be in favor of change, yet another to create change.  It is one thing to be a leader and another to be a leader of leaders.

We can achieve a higher level of leadership by inspiring, advocating, and changing.  But a real leader of leaders is a servant. Servant leadership shows that to you, others are more important than you.  These leaders are transformational, they convey their vision, engage others, and cause those others to be excited about their own values.

Firehouse Zen in Philadelphia at Liberty Regional Training Event

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I'm returning to my hometown November 4 through 6, 2011, for a few cheesesteaks (I'm a Pat's Steaks guy), to see some childhood friends, and mostly, to share some of my insights at the inaugural Liberty Regional Training Event presented by GoForward.

While Philly is a big place, the event is being held literally in my old backyard, within an easy walk from my old house.  And I should know, I used to have to do that all the time.  I actually used to sneak into the movie theatre that is in the hotel complex downstairs from the convention center during the summer and swim (unauthorized) in the hotel pool.  Back then it was a harmless day spent being a delinquent, nowadays, someone would have you hauled off to jail.

But all that being said, I'm excited to be involved in this event and from what we are seeing so far, the excitement isn't limited to me.  And further, if this and the others planned go off well, they could end up being regular stops packed with some of the most exciting names in today's (and tomorrow's) fire service. 

So while you have a chance, sign up, join me for a few cocktails on Friday night, and especially join me during my two scheduled presentations: Zen and the Chief Officer and You Can't Make This Stuff Up.  Hopefully I will be able to meet some of you who have only been able to interact with me here.  I'm looking forward to that weekend.

Poor Leaders Are Like Noxious Gas?

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The lack of real leadership surfaces in a number of the world’s problems. I don’t necessarily feel like people can’t handle the job, I just think that in a lot of cases, people are designated as leaders who have no business in that position. To me, they are like gases with asphyxiant properties.

Some of these gases or mixtures aren’t necessarily harmful in and of themselves, but to us, their harm is that just by occupying space with their presence, they ruin what could be a perfectly suitable atmosphere. So to make the atmosphere tenable again, one effective tactic would be to replace these noxious materials with the materials we find suitable. 

Similarly, poor leaders displace good leaders.  By just being present and nothing else, they contaminate the atmosphere. As a result, good leaders are simply forced elsewhere.  Hopefully those good leaders can find places to create a better condition, but the loss of those individuals is intolerable to those left behind and the organization suffers.

In reading and watching the news in recent days I am reminded just how damaging these “asphyxiants” can be to organizations and really, to society. I see my job as being one to facilitate good leadership. I try to encourage you to be better people, to use good judgment, to learn and understand, and to be “missionaries”, carrying the message of good leadership to others. I don’t consider myself to be a good leader – I see myself as a continual work in process and have plenty of faults – but I recognize good leadership and I have observed what it takes to promote good leadership in others.

As much as I’d like to suggest to poor leaders that they should move out of the way to permit good leaders to fill that space, I think it is more realistic to say that perhaps we should convince those individuals to be more open-minded to learning, to engaging their people, and to promoting good practices. So you can see, instead of removing the problem, there is another tactic we can use in mitigating an asphyxiant atmosphere: by mixing the material in with a good atmosphere and making it much smaller in proportion to the whole, we can “safe” the atmosphere. While we may not always have the answers, if we can permit ourselves to be exposed to good practices and to see how things should work, we can make things better, incrementally, but just the same, much improved.

Be an agent of positive change. Promote best practices. And let’s all go home in the morning.

Zen Zone #30

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Today I was driving along, frustrated over some of the issues we face in society, wondering why some people just don't get "it".  This story returned to me when I was meditating and I found it answered my questions.  Instead of feeling contempt or anger for those who can't seem to understand an enlightened existence, perhaps we should feel compassion for them.

Ryokan was a Japanese Zen master who lived alone in a hut at the foot of a mountain. He lived in abject poverty and his hut was empty.  The Master slept on the ground and spent his days meditating on a rock.  One evening a thief crawled through the window of his hut, but discovered that there was absolutely nothing to steal.

Awakening, Ryokan startled the robber by greeting him and welcoming him into his home.  When the thief wanted to leave, Ryokan said, "You have come so far to visit me and I would be dishonored if you left enpty-handed".  Having no belongings, Ryokan gave the robber his own tattered robe. 

The thief was completely at a loss for words, and he took the robe and crept away into the night. Later, when meditating on the situation under the full moon, the Master thought, "How unfortunate. The only thing I could offer that man was my tattered robe. I wish I could have given him this beautiful moon."

The story also has another meaning as well; that we should always consider that while things might be bad for us, perhaps there are others who are suffering worse.  I said the other day that we should increase our capacity for compassion, and on the fire service front, I guess it could be much worse.  You could be faced with a scenario like this one in Kenya.

When you are challenged with a problem, it always helps to maintain perspective.

 

Mick’s Maxims: Rules You Can Live By

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"When planning any prank, it is considered a bad idea if the event involves explosives, flammables or combustibles of any form including gases, liquids, or solids, oxidizers, poisons, radioactives, corrosives, or other regulated materials.  Keep to materials that don't have a requirement for a material safety data sheet and you should be okay."

"Requirements for any individual to expose a body part in order to do something in your station activities is probably not something you want to be around when the planning or implementation is underway.  In fact, anything that could be considered 'criminal conspiracy' should be avoided at all costs."

"When advising civilians on how to thank firefighters, the best advice is baked goods.  I suspect there are very few departments out there who approve of tipping, providing tickets to sporting events, or special considerations like that.  Food is always good and baked food is even better.  And dessert is the best." 

"No matter how much that Junior wants you to hang out with them, any interaction between an adult male and a juvenile of either sex that doesn't involve mentoring, coaching, or training is likely to involve jail time."

Zen Zone #26

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"I expected times like this – but I never thought they'd be so bad, so long, and so frequent." – Ashleigh Brilliant, Despair.com

I used to pretty much "get on my game face" when one of these babies came wandering up from the Caribbean.  These days it seems like I'm just interested in getting on with things: either hit me or don't hit me, but let's not drag this out for a few weeks as I have little patience for drama.  Then of course, along comes the quake.  While this definitely ratcheted up the tension on the already nervous, it too didn't register much with me.  I guess not much fazes me anymore. 

While there is the wisdom shared by some that this is the Apocalypse, I'll point out that this was also said about a number of previous disasters by a number of similarly-wrong prophets, hucksters, and snake-oil salesmen posing as religious leaders.  I'm watching The Weather Channel like I do throughout most of the year anyway, hoping my family located in the Mid-Atlantic is doing okay, as they are usually wondering about us when the storms are aimed a little lower.

On my way back from out of town, I found myself contemplating the possibility of a strike on my community, as we were centered nicely in the earlier forecasts.  Strangely enough, and maybe it's just a sign that I am growing older, I felt pretty peaceful about it, so long as I could assure the safety of my wife and children and as well, spare the lives of my many Island neighbors (and other communities as well, but you get what I mean).  The rest is just stuff and stuff can ultimately be replaced.  It wouldn't be easy, but so long as we have each other, we have what we need.

A story I have repeated often (and have even spoke of it here on FHZ) is one from Katrina.  I met a man who had lost everything he had. When I questioned how God could let something like this happen, he said that he was thankful, because this was God's way of showing him how many people loved him.  In retrospect, some of the most valued lessons and gifts in my life came from Katrina. That sounds pretty bizarre, but the friendships I strengthened, the people who I met and have become lifetime friends with, the opportunities for learning and sharing, and many other things as well all came from the aftermath of that terrible storm.

Let's keep the people and communities who have already been impacted by disasters all over the world, and those who are in the sights of this new threat on the horizon, in our prayers.  And let's hope that instead of despair, each individual instead finds some meaning in these tragedies, meaning that strengthens them for the rest of their lives.

 

 

Restricted Vision

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I was on the plane from Denver to Kansas City when the gentleman next to me struck up a conversation.  As it turns out, he is a retired educator and clergyman and we shared some observations on technology, especially as it related to the issue of texting.  We were laughing/struggling with the image of young people, so engrossed in texting that they were entirely distracted.  But at some point I was reflecting on the subject and began to think about it from a different perspective.  It seems to me that it is really an issue of intense concentration, to the point of restricting vision.

Being so focused on one thing, it is very easy to lose track of your surroundings.  If there is ever a scenario when situational awareness is completely hampered, it is at these moments.  Even if, as a leader, you were to "get up on the balcony" to observe from a different perspective, chances are that if your focus were so narrowed on one subject, you still might miss the subtle and even the obvious, when considering impact upon whatever is actually occurring.

Sometimes the challenges we face are so daunting or so in need of our engagement, that we forget to consider alternatives.  These issues may cause us to hone in on only the details that are immediately apparent to us, as they may jump right out and comand our attention, and cause us to lose sight of the process: to define the problem, gather the facts, consider alternatives, and implement the solution.  Instead we may become completely absorbed in whatever element of that process that causes us the most challenge and we may be paralyzed due to that restricted sightline.  And just as importantly, peripheral vision helps us to consider other factors as they intercept our path and instead of navigating away or turning to combat the issue head on, these factors take us completely by surprise.

Consider that while we may be too close to our problem to be objective, we may even not resolve that perspective by standing back from it, because we are fixed on the issue and unwilling to pay attention to subtleties.  When faced with a monumental challenge, it helps to step back from it, but it also helps sometimes to put the issue down altogether, to walk away from it and reflect, and then revisit the problem with fresh eyes.

Note: Thanks to my traveling companion for his insight and sharing his observations.  And as an FYI, depending on what Irene does, I'll probably be a little busy, so if you don't see anything on FHZ for a while, please stop back by because once I get time, I'll get caught back up again.  Thanks for reading.

Zen Zone #25

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"If you can dream it, you can do it." – Walt Disney

In between class sessions here in Colorado, Chief Ron and his wife, Linda, and I took a scenic tour of Rocky Mountain National Park by way of the Western Portal, going up to the Gore Range before turning around and going back into town.  While the park is incredible and the vistas breathtaking, it occured to us that settlers going west centuries ago must have been awestruck coming off the plains and facing this massive roadblock.

We were also listening to a talk radio show at the same time and the moderator was indicating that we are never just given the keys to leadership, we have to earn them through trial and survival.  Only after being faced with hardship and making it through do you realize that these challenges fortify you for any battles ahead.

Sitting in an air conditioned car on the paved road and using GPS to find our path, it became apparent to me that the next time I am faced with adversity, I need to consider these individuals.  How daunting it must have been, going to a land unknown to them, packing up everything they had and moving it across the Rockies to forge a better life for themselves.  Yet they not only overcame those challenges, they led the making of a new nation.  What right do I have to worry about my petty issues? 

If you believe in what you are doing, nothing can stop you. Consider the triumphs of others when given impossible odds and realize that you can do anything you dream.

Recharging

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I am here in Granby, Colorado, doing a truck company operations course for a few of the Middle Park departments.  Other than our hosts from the Grand Fire District, we have some great guys and gals also from East Grand, Grand Lake, Wheat Ridge, Vail, and Kremmling.  This is the part of my job I love: getting people who really want to do this job to another level.  Everyone in the class seems to get "it".  Chief Ron Richards, who I am teaching with, has said before, "This is missionary work.  We are spreading the word about best practices, tricks of the trade, really, the art of fighting fire." 

Do you want to recharge your batteries?  Teach.  Take what you have learned and share it with others.  You don't have to be a certified instructor to teach.  Even the lowest man on the totem pole can learn something and share it with others. Sharing knowledge changes the world.

Zen Zone #23

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"It is a fact that we live in a religiously diverse world. Religious diversity can and often does result in grave misunderstanding, hostility, and, as we know all too well, conflict, with unacceptable costs to human life and well-being." – Rita Gross, quoted in Tricycle

It isn't just religion.  It is culture.  It is physical or mental disability. It is Republican or Democrat (or independent, for some of us). It is color. It is nationality. It is vollie or career. It is urban or rural.

Before we judge anyone, we have to first understand.  Just as we are all supposed to be brothers in the fire service, we are called to be brothers on this planet as well.  Good natured ribbing is not what we are hearing these days.  There is anger, hate and bile.  Being different isn't just okay, it is encouraged.  But being different gets stigmatized because some are frightened by difference.  Or they don't understand difference.  Or they are FORCED to accept difference.  Or they march in lockstep with those who are like them, who preach hate toward those who are different.

If anyone should be more understanding about our situation, it should be people who have a shared bond.  We in the fire service have a shared bond.  Before you say something you'll come to regret someday, think about it.  Then speak from your heart, not from your gut.

Crying For Help

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Over the past few days I have seen some news items that really point out the need for more comprehensive mental health assistance.  Between the situations with the firefighter threatening his co-workers in Kansas City and the police standoff with ex-Notre Dame defensive coordinator Corwin Brown at his home near South Bend, the subject seems to come up again and again.

Without a doubt, issues of mental health seem to  have always been one of those sensitive issues that no one would talk about.  However, there was an article in Sports Illustrated this past week about the Miami Dolphins' Brandon Marshall in which he has been candid about his mental health challenges.  His bravery in discussing the subject openly has been refreshing, as it is a message to others who have issues that they are not alone, and that seeking help is not a sign of weakness.

Any admission of mental incapacity is traditionally stigmatized but it really shouldn't be.  Mental health problems originate from a number of different sources, but especially now in our nation, everyone is subject to being overwhelmed.  The stress that I can personally sense with a number of people I know is higher than I have ever known it to be and I'm positive that anyone reading this probably knows their share of individuals who are struggling as well.  Between the roller coaster ride our economy is on, the overwhelming number of jobless, foreclosures, environmental disasters, terrorism, and other world wide concerns, even if you are normally pretty stable, in these times pretty much anything could be the final straw.

We spoke of inordinate stress reactions before in this forum, like back with the massacre in Arizona where a firefighter failed to respond to this incident.  There were plenty of people who were quick to judge but had no idea what the basic issues were.  I don't even know that we still have all the answers.  But while today you may feel like you have a grip on things, tomorrow could be the beginning of the end of your current world.  I heard a figure the other day that said that one out of every seven Americans right now is on the food stamp program.  I'm watching Dateline NBC as I am writing this, where Lester Holt is doing a piece on three women in Millen, GA and the effect the economic recession is having on this small town.

It's easy to be smug about how good your life is when things are going well.  It's easy to think that someone who is having a major crisis should just suck it up, because really, how bad can it be? Well, it is a testament to the maturity level of some of the trolls who prowl the web as to how quick they question someone's integrity because, say, they aren't half the Superman they happen to be.  Frankly, I have met some of the individuals who make statements that parallel the "We fight what you fear" mentality and you know, I question their sanity and their ability to fight fire more than anyone who has the courage to admit they need some help.

There is a dividing line between those who need institutional care and those who are in the midst of a crisis.  And while the grand arena is "mental health" and I am in no way qualified or knowledgeable to discuss the differences, there is an obvious need for people to be compassionate and understanding, because today's bad day could be tomorrow's nightmare.  Don't be so quick to make statements that question someone's dignity just because they have hit a wall.  I hope to never face those challenges myself and I hope you don't ever have to either.  If you need help, get help. And if you know someone who needs help, be a real leader and do what you can do to compassionately point them in the right direction.

Zen Zone #21

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"The person of superior integrity does not insist upon his integrity. For this reason, he has integrity. The person of inferior integrity never loses sight of his integrity. For this reason, he lacks integrity." – Lao-Tzu

Once you lose integrity, it is very hard to gain that trust back. Therefore, it is imperative that you conduct youself always with understanding of others and always considering what is best for those you serve.  The hard decision, it seems like for some, is deciding who you really do serve.

In some organizations it seems like you are supposed to be serving your boss.  In some circles, I hear officers say they are supposed to be serving their subordinates.  While it important to keep these individuals in mind, if you have integrity, you will ultimately realize that you are supposed to be serving the citizens or customers who depend on you in their time of need.  The boss and the subordinates have important roles in how that service is delivered, and therefore, their needs must be considered, but when it comes down to it, if you make decisions based on what is best for the customers you serve, you can't go wrong.

Zen Zone #20

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Paraphrased from "Go Rin No Sho" (The Book of Five Rings), by Miyamato Musashi: "There is a time and place for use of weapons.  The best use of the companion sword is in a confined space, or when you are engaged closely with an opponent. The long sword can be used effectively in all situations.  But if you only learn these techniques, you will think narrowly and forget the true Way. You should not have a favorite tactic or weapon. To become over-familiar with one method is as much a fault as not knowing it sufficiently well. You should not copy others, but use weapons which you can handle properly. It is bad for commanders and troopers to have likes and dislikes. As a warrior, these are things you must learn thoroughly." 

Zen Zone #19

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A little Firehouse Zen humor, borrowed from the prolific author, Anonymous:  "Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings, they did it by killing all those who opposed them."

I actually do have a sense of humor, although it tends to be on the dark and dry side.  It helps to have a sense of humor about life in general, and especially in leading and in implementing change because frankly, none of this stuff ever goes smoothly.  And if it does, you can be reassured that someone is hiding something for an unwelcome surprise later.

At the heart of every successful leader is a light heart at the appropriate moments.  But as is with everything in leadership, timing and opportunity must be right.  Failure to observe that dictum can be fatal to your career and your reputation.

By the way, I know Anonymous isn't an author.  He's a spokesman for the Defense Department..  

Zen Zone #18

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I'm afraid I don't know as much about Islam as I should, so I was doing some reading, as this is the time of Ramadan.  According to what I have read, Ramadan is a time for practicing self-restraint.  Some of the rules I found interesting were that practitioners are called upon to observe "piety and sobriety with less pleasures of flesh than ordinarily enjoyed." 

According to the website Albawaba, Ramadan is a time for patience, humility and spiritual cleansing. "Even when tested by others one should abstain from ill-temper & impatience."  Taking a break from our normal lives to be more civil, less intemperate, or more willing to consider other perspectives sounds like a good one to me.  In fact, it sounds a lot like what our Lenten observances should also pursue (I'm aware that we should be doing this; just utilizing a little facetiousness).

Perhaps the commenters on some of my colleagues' blogs and websites should consider these practices, not just now, but always, when engaging with others.  Today we may feel like we can do no wrong, but I can reassure you, at some point, you will really be desiring mercy and forgiveness.  At that point, maybe its a good time to reflect on the mercy and forgiveness we have given to others as well.

Zen Zone #17

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When a combatant chooses to fight intelligently, the best method is to yield to the superior force and overcome it by its own momentum.   By doing so, the one who acts first creates the momentum for their own destruction. To do this requires intelligence, understanding the adversary, and your own strengths and limitations.

Every serious engagement with others should be treated as if you are in battle.  Negotiate, propose, further an agenda of good by always considering the stance of others, understanding their needs, and working to achieve what is the best for the people you serve. Whether the individual you face is in a truly adversarial role with you is immaterial.  Combatants win because they consider the positions of the enemy they are about to engage, respect their positions, and work to use those positions to leverage the best advantage.

Not Lovin’ It

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Believe it or not, this post started out a lot longer, but I radically chopped it up and got to the point.  And lest you think this blog has gone to the evaluation of restaurants, this is actually a discussion on customer service. So just keep reading and you can catch up later.  

By the way, as a quick aside, this photo is of a "Gino's Giant".  That has no bearing on the article except that Gino's isn't either of the two Fast Food Joints discussed here.  And, of course, as a matter of disclosure, I worked for the Gino's corporation back in high school.  But I digress… 

There's this giant megacorporation I'll call Fast Food Joint "M". There's another Fast Food Joint we'll refer to as "C".  Last week I went into "M"; Between eight people on duty, not a single one, not even the cashier, even acknowledged my existence.  They made eye contact, but there was no effort to recognize that a customer was waiting alone at the counter.  Ultimately, the cashier shuffled over to the register and looked up; not a "Thanks for coming, what's your order?" or even a grunt.  Made my order, which required repeating twice.  Then upon getting the order, of course, it was wrong.  Returning to the counter, there was one person ahead of me.  They were also getting the same treatment, but it was taking even longer.  I stood there with my bag, hoping that just one of all of these people would realize, "Hey, we must have made a mistake, let me see what is going on", nope, nothing.

At "C",  the place was packed; yet there are five employees.  Everyone is hustling, taking orders and turning orders around.  The manager is even involved and as customers come up to ask for refills, she is also covering those as well.  I am spoken to by several of the employees, asked about my order, and thanked when the order is processed.  But it takes a little longer than expected, as it appears they are training one of the people in back.  The bag comes and it is correct, but I get an apology anyway.

Fast food management doesn't seem to encounter anything like this level of service at any "M" I have ever been to.  At almost every "C" I have visited, however, I sense that they have a higher purpose and they pride themselves on what is turned out.  At "M", there is plenty of hype from the corporate HQ and there are expensive promos and new restaurant styles.  At "C", the store is nice enough, but the focus is on polite manners, courteous service, and good food.  Personally, the experience at "C" is much more enjoyable.

I have gone to visit fire stations and when I walked in, other firefighters have stared at me like I was from Mars, but none ever took the time to ask me what they could help me with, or why I was there, or even to just say "Hi".  I have been in some memorable houses where I have been given gold plated tours of the facilities, coffee, offered dinner, and all before I even identified myself as a firefighter.  I realize that this last situation is pretty unreasonable, but I don't even expect that; I just ask that you address my being there, ask if there is anything you can help me with, and engage me if I happen to show an interest or have a question.

The "M" experience is not one I would ever tolerate in any of my stations.  The "C" experience is more like it.  The last time I checked the news, we, that is, the collective fire service, have a problem with getting the things we need to do our jobs.  Our staffs are being cut, stations and companies are being closed, and funding chopped.  Actually, the only thing that seems to be increasing for municipal fire departments is taxpayer frustration at what is considered an overfunded concept, coupled with what is perceived as having no tangible benefit.

Based on my consumer comparison between "M" and "C", if these were fire departments, which of these do you think I might choose to fund?  The surly, uncooperative, and overstaffed "M"? Or the pleasant, courteous, and efficient "C"?  You can polish your image all day long with fancy marketing and spiffy stores, but ultimately, if your own people don't get the concept, you are wasting your time and effort.  As leaders, we need to focus on improving the attitude of our people.  The culture of your organization, if you want to survive these lean times, should be focused on improving attitudes and making "service with a smile" the norm, not the exception. 

Zen Zone #16

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"The perfect way", Sosan said, "is not difficult. Just drop discrimination. Clear and bright is the world when we neither hate nor love."  

Our world is filled with commentary on politics, ethics and social conduct. Society is fixated on "What is best?" "What is worst?"  "What is right?" "What is wrong?" "What is new and improved?" Our lives are spent trying to compete and climb our way to the top, wherever that is. Ego and pride continue to be evident in the poor decisions made by politicians, celebrities, the wealthy, and "leaders" in general. Self is placed above the needs of others on a daily basis and the world is much harsher as a result.

To correct this we must increase human compassion. Society revels in the advances made in science and technology, yet remains blind to our responsibility to our fellow man.  While there are those who continue to grab more and more, there are increasing numbers of those who have less and less. Instead of engaging in the race for greatness, we should be willing to work for goodness.

Zen Zone #15

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A great warrior decided to attack the enemy although he had only a fraction of the number of men the opposition commanded. He knew that he would win, but his soldiers were in doubt.  On the way to battle, he stopped at a shrine and told his men: "After I visit the shrine I will toss a coin. If it is heads, we will win; if tails, we will lose."

The warrior entered the shrine and offered a prayer, then came forth and tossed a coin. Heads appeared, and his soldiers were so eager to fight that they won their battle easily.  "No one can change the hand of destiny," his attendant told him after the battle.

"Indeed not," said the warrior, showing a double headed coin. "The battle was already won in our minds. We simply required action to fulfill that destiny."

Half the battle, in many cases, requires looking past potential failure and being present to create change.