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One of the blogs I follow is "The Stupid Way", which is written by an Irish lad who began practicing Buddhism and is currently living and teaching in Japan.  In a discussion on "Buddhism and God", Pete writes:

I’d always found it hard to believe in the idea of a God who had somehow created the universe from outside. So for me the Buddhist idea of God and the universe being the same thing was easier to accept. But Nishijima’s answer didn’t quite satisfy me. If God is the universe and the universe is God, then who made the universe? This, of course, is the big question. I don’t know why I wanted to ask Nishijima about it, because there's no way he could know. But I him asked anyway. He told me the Buddhist idea is that the universe has always existed.

While I am a practicing Catholic, I am open to the idea that there are ideas and practices in other religions that might extend into my own practice of faith.  Even more so, I find also that sometimes the things I learn from other religions or beliefs help me to understand my own experience with God, as well as in leading, following, dealing with conflict, etc. 

This ties into our discussion here in that I was meditating on the concept of culture change and I was struggling with the idea that a radical change in culture in an organization that is considered successful, seems even more frought with difficulty. If the culture is good, and if it exists because the nature of those involved in it is good, why should we consider change?  And why wouldn't you want to change things?  After all, we should be endlessly improving and moving forward, so even if things are good now, shouldn't we agitate for change so that we remain fresh?

If the culture is who we are, and we are the culture, how do we change that? Why do we want to walk away from something comfortable and working to go to the hard, cold unknown, where we can't even begin to know or understand what lies ahead?  

The answer to those in successful cultures is that we change because that IS our culture. 

Zen Zone #35

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Part of the reason why it seems like conflict between individuals is continually escalating is because it is.  In order for us to move out of this destructive cycle, we have to understand that society's approach to conflict, to treat it as a battle, is counterproductive.  Especially in politics, the combatants are continually competing for power over one another, rather than to develop broad, bipartisan support to solve shared problems.

Pitched battle is not a desirable tactic.  It exerts energy that could be utilized by just fighting smarter. A siege is the last type of battle anyone should want to engage in. It does not resolve the issues quickly or intelligently either.  It is best to look for opportunities, to engage when the timing is right, and to focus resources on the battle at the appropriate time and in adequate numbers.

In the meanwhile, create peace when you can, make allies when you can,  In the future, your success may be dependent on the forces you can summon not from your own stores, but from the stores of others.  Success does not come quickly or easily. But it will never come unless we start grappling with the hard problems first and use our energy wisely.

Attributes of Generals

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Zhuge Kongming said, "Advance and retreat are a matter of timing- military affairs are not directed by the ruler but by the general. Therefore, there is no heaven above, no earth below, no adversary ahead and no ruler behind. If generals can be like this, people will be willing to fight when they give the orders, and the enemy will be defeated before any blood is shed. Look upon your soldiers as beloved children, and they will willingly die with you.

I don't need my people to die with me to do their job, but look at it more along the lines of discipline and respect.  "When you can be like this", your people will follow you wherever you need them to go and will do whatever it takes to create success.  This has been my credo for a very long time.  Whenever I get a new officer under me, I share it with them and explain the meaning of it.

Once someone asked one of my colleagues if I really lived this stuff or if I was full of crap.  My colleague told me he said I not only talked the talk, but walked the walk.  It's one of the finest compliments I think I have ever heard.  I try to lead with integrity and while I expect much from my people, I know they expect much from me as well.  I am not kidding when I say that I am truly embarrassed when I let them down somehow, and that does happen from time to time.

Try to lead as if not only your life depends upon your ability to command, but as if your subordinates' lives do too, because their lives DO depend on it.  Learn your craft, know how to lead and command, and strive for excellence.

 

Sacrifice

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Okay, let's talk about sacrifice. My wife, who is already suffering a post-Nepal-trip flu, fell asleep on our couch last night. At zero-dark-thirty this morning, our youngest daughter, Honora, woke up with similar symptoms. She went downstairs, curled up next to Kathleen on the couch and kept her awake for the remaining portion of the morning.  Kathleen did not wake me up, though she had an eight o'clock appointment with a client. By the time I woke up, she had Honora under control, got ready for work, then came downstairs and helped Emma, our oldest, create a faux buckskin tablecloth for her school project on indigenous cultures.  Between all of this, of course, she was also engaging our middle child, Caroline, who didn't want to be left out of the excitement.

The point of sharing this information is not to celebrate my wife's profound dedication to our daughters, although it is amazing and deserving of such praise.  The point is that true leadership requires sacrifice.  Real leaders don't just mail it in when they are tired, or sick, or having a bad day.  They put others first and they continue soldiering on.

Sacrifice is often associated with the Supreme Sacrifice, that of laying your life down for others.  I suggest that to lay down your life for others is different than laying your life down BECAUSE of others, as the former implies you are trading your life for theirs and the latter that you are simply dying with them.  I'm not going to go into the issues I alluded to yesterday, about not wanting to leave your fallen brother.  What I am getting at is that the act of laying your life down FOR another implies a trade, or the meaning of sacrifice in that you do something so that someone else can gain something.

My wife could have sent Honora to wake me up and continue sleeping, which she should have, but she did not.  My wife could have told Emma to suck it up, to figure out her project herself, but she did not.  She could have told Caroline to leave her alone, because she didn't have the time, but she did not.  She took one for the team, she did what she did, and she showed our daughters what it is that mothers do.  They sacrifice.

As an officer, you are called to sacrifice as well.  If you don't, you are just one of the gang.  You have to put on your game face and do what needs to be done, not only because it is your job, but as a leader, you have to lead.  You have to be in front, showing people the way.  You have to provide positive examples for your team.  You have to engage, coach, correct, reinforce, teach, and mentor.  This all requires time.  It requires patience.  It requires understanding your people and what motivates them.

Transformational leadership doesn't come about by simply telling someone what to do and expecting compliance.  It is the difference between catching the fish and teaching someone how to catch fish, as the saying goes.  It is one thing to catch the fish, it is entirely another to take the time to teach someone to do it for themselves.  But this sacrifice of time, if correctly applied, is an investment in the future.

When you think about leadership and stewardship, they are basically the same thing.  They involve "taking care" of something, usually people.  Leading can come about because you simply happen to be the person at the front of the line. But real leadership comes from knowing where to take that line and how to avoid pitfalls along the way.  That requires caring about everyone else and shepherding them to the final destination.  And because it requires you to do MORE than just following, it is in itself, sacrifice.

We can exist or we can take action.  We can take up space on this planet or we can work to make it a better place.  If you are reading this, except for those of you I shame into reading my articles because you are close friends or relatives, you are likely interested in learning more about leadership.  So I don't believe that existence is sufficient for what you have in mind.  Take hold of the standard, put it up high where others can see it, and advance. If you are doing it right, others will follow.  When they see you are willing to sacrifice, they may even offer to carry that flag for you.  And when they can create the same momentum, that, THAT is leadership.

And Now, The Rest Chime In…

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Well, it was inevitable. Now we have the 53 Percenters, a conservative group who I heard featured on CNN this morning as the answer to the "We Are The 99 Percent" protest offered up during the Occupy Wall Street movement.  Philosophically, I guess I should be right in line with these folks.  I work several jobs, I pay my taxes, I think there are a number of people who should live within their means and aren't (which got them in this situation to begin with), and I am a white, God-fearing male in my late forties.  I also believe that there are those who should "suck it up and get to work".  This being the basis of the 53 Percent group, according to an article by Annie Lowrey in Slate:

The 53 percent say everyone should stop moaning, quit pointing fingers at Wall Street, and pay their damn taxes. (The name refers to the fact that only 53 percent of households pay federal income tax these days.) The brainchild of Erick Erickson of RedState.org, the 53 Tumblr features comments like: “I don’t blame Wall Street. Suck it up you whiners. I am the 53 percent subsidizing you so you can hang out on Wall Street and complain.”

But as is always the case, there is more to the story, which the ultra-conservative camp also seems to mention:

The short answer is: deductions and poverty. About half of households within that 47 percent do not end up paying federal income tax because they qualify for enough breaks to cancel their tax obligations out. Of that group, 44 percent are claiming tax benefits for the elderly, like an exemption for Social Security payments. And 30.4 percent are claiming credits for “children and the working poor,” like the child-care tax credit. The remainder get breaks for investment income, spending on education, itemized deductions, and a mish-mash of other things. When combined, it’s all enough to cancel out their income tax requirements.

I hate like hell to post a blog with so many quoted statements, after all, you can read the article yourself.  But Ms. Lowrey has done such a good job of stating the story that it would be ridiculous for me to try to re-frame it.

[This] covers about half of the households that don’t pay any federal taxes. The other half of households are just too poor to pay them. [The] pool of too-poor households has grown much bigger because of the recession and its aftermath: Average incomes have kept on declining even though the recession has officially ended, and millions of households have lost one or both of their wage-earners. Households are earning about 10 percent less than they did in 2007. About 12 percent of families live in poverty. That means a lot of folks simply aren’t eligible for income tax.

So what does this mean for any of us?  It doesn't change the fact that we are all suffering and our politicians, generally, aren't doing their jobs.  It also means that there are many in this nation who aren't contributing to the bottom line.  It ALSO means that there are those who can AFFORD to contribute and those who have NOTHING to contribute.  And likewise, those of us caught in the middle are saddled with covering the bets.

I'm not comfortable with legislating fairness.  I think that the fact we are even having this discussion, however, is an issue of justice.  Why am I even discussing this on Firehouse Zen, a blog supposed to be about leadership and change?  Because this is a classic study in leadership and power.  We can oversimplify the situation, but the realities are these:

 

 

  • We have a select group of individuals who are supposed to be leading our nation, yet are too embedded in status quo, favoritism, and big money to lead responsibly.
  • These people are heavily influenced by a number of individuals with the means and the connections to advance their personal agendas, which include enriching themselves at the expense of the rest of us.
  • People who would probably make good leaders are dissuaded from doing so because they don't want to subject their lives to intense media scrutiny, negative campaigning, and having to spend more time running for office than managing our government.
  • We have an increasing number of poor as a result of a number of factors: joblessness, rising prices, unfair banking practices, living outside their means, etc.
  • We continue to sink funds into practices that continue to enrich a chosen few and fail to help the entire nation.
  • The situation is not improving.

The issue is not that someone like me desires legislation to "even the playing field".  I LIKE the idea of a meritocracy.  I LIKE capitalism.  I DEPLORE socialism; I resent that someone who would work less than I do would get rewarded for doing so, just based on the rules of that society.  But I am also something I consider more important.  I am realistic, I am skeptical of both sides of this issue, and I consider myself a leader.  

Real leaders don't let the weak get beat up by bullies, even though they have it good themselves.  It would be really easy for me to say, "You know, I meet the criteria for telling the rest of you to suck it up.  So suck it up."  But as a leader, I have to be concerned about those I lead.  And while I have a job, I can put food on my table, I have insurance, and I can afford to send my kids to a private school, I think abandoning the poor, the unemployed, the hungry, and those who really DO want to get back on their feet again is reprehensible.

Yesterday we were doing MAYDAY drills in our department.  One of the hardest things we continue to face in our job, and something we are trying to work through, is lying there on a floor with a fallen brother, whose air is running out, who is trapped and unable to be extricated, and with our air running out, saying, "I'm not going to leave you.  I will stay here and die right next to you, but I'm not leaving you."

We know what the right answer is.  Or do we?

Occupy Your Life

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With the movement around our nation and the world right now to occupy one space or another, again I am reminded that our similarities outweigh our differences.  Yet there are still those who would rather reap discord and create anger instead of looking at the big picture, being the trolls that they are.  You may not identify directly with those individuals exercising their First Amendment rights on Wall Street, or anywhere else for that matter.  The chances are, however, that any issue they have that they are willing to speak out about in a peaceful manner, should be considered before dismissing it as garbage, if not for the reason that in their message, they speak out in favor of things we were likely supporting anyway.

I find it interesting that people on the extremes are even speaking up at all, because it is their fault that we are in the mess we are in.  This isn't just the Extreme Right we are talking about or the Extreme Left.  It is their unwillingness to work together, their total devotion to party above people, their fanaticism and their zealotry that have brought these times upon us.  If you choose to argue this, go ahead, but the reality is that those in our government on both sides who have failed us, and those extremes that have driven our agendas on both sides, are more about themselves and less about the rest of us.

The only people profiting from our current situation are those who have the means to manipulate the system.  The corporations and banks that took bailout money yet failed to tighten their belts continue to make profits and to take advantage of loopholes not available to the rest of us.  Small businesses have shut their doors all over this country because of the poor stewardship and greed of others, but help never came for them.  In fact, I know businesspeople who are still suffering from the mismanagement of our financial sector and the piss-poor government oversight, but I don't see any screaming from the mountaintops by our elected officials, except to point the finger at their colleagues.  Let's be blunt: By continuing to do business the way you all continue to do business, you are driving our Nation to the edge.

I am by no means aligned with any side.  I hold equal contempt for both extremes.  I would be in favor of privatizing government if the privateers could be trusted not to squander my money, give me crappy service, and feed the bloated CEOs who already have more of everything than they could ever hope to use.  But that being said, I think our government has done an equally crappy job and can't be trusted either.  If anything, it really does call for a return to more local government and less centralized government.  While you lose some in the economy of scale, there is a lot more ability to maintain accountability and insist on transparency.  If the populace of a locality choose to be more innovative, so be it.  If they choose to be conservative, so be it.  But in this fashion, like minded individuals would actually have a place to group together, in communities with those who think like them, or in more diverse communities if they so choose.

It's time we all pushed back against the current way we are solving our problems.  The "leaders" in our nation are concerned only about being re-elected.  While the argument can be made that if they don't get re-elected, they can't invoke change, the flip side is that if you are focusing more on getting re-elected than on governing, what reason do we have to keep you there anyway?  

The lobbyists who make a fortune pushing their interests in government could stay, but their ability to buy a vote through any means should be taken away and their ability to push their agendas through the use of logical reasoning, creation of workable plans, and solving the dilemmas caused by their agendas should be valued instead.

And these big corporations who are getting more in government subsistence than any "welfare sponge" (to use the words of one individual) could be forced to compete on the same playing field as the small businesses.  Less loopholes and more equality for the businesses around our country WOULD put more people back to work.  But when we effectively reward corporations for having a better legal and accounting team than the small businesses, we take away the ability for these small businesses to even stand a chance.

The chances are that you actually agree with a lot of what these "Occupiers" are saying, whether you are a conservative or a liberal.  They are angry that there are people exploiting us for their own gain, both in business and in government, with no chance for the rest of us to make a living on our own merits.  My wife and I pay our mortgage.  We invest in our future.  We run a business and don't lavish gifts on ourselves. We don't exceed our means.  But while we pay our taxes and work hard, I personally don't see any reward in the fact that we do so, yet executives and bankers and politicians can afford second and third homes, yet have failed our country.

You don't have to go sit on a street corner to support change.  But you can take an opportunity to learn about the issues and say something to your elected officials.  And if they don't want to listen, it is your responsibility to replace them with someone who will. We need leaders who will look past the ideology and look toward what solutions are available for improving ALL of our lives, not just the chosen few.

Zen Zone #34

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It is one thing to create art, it is yet another to create art that inspires others to create art.  It is one thing to be supportive, yet another to be activist.  It is one thing to be in favor of change, yet another to create change.  It is one thing to be a leader and another to be a leader of leaders.

We can achieve a higher level of leadership by inspiring, advocating, and changing.  But a real leader of leaders is a servant. Servant leadership shows that to you, others are more important than you.  These leaders are transformational, they convey their vision, engage others, and cause those others to be excited about their own values.

Firehouse Zen in Philadelphia at Liberty Regional Training Event

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I'm returning to my hometown November 4 through 6, 2011, for a few cheesesteaks (I'm a Pat's Steaks guy), to see some childhood friends, and mostly, to share some of my insights at the inaugural Liberty Regional Training Event presented by GoForward.

While Philly is a big place, the event is being held literally in my old backyard, within an easy walk from my old house.  And I should know, I used to have to do that all the time.  I actually used to sneak into the movie theatre that is in the hotel complex downstairs from the convention center during the summer and swim (unauthorized) in the hotel pool.  Back then it was a harmless day spent being a delinquent, nowadays, someone would have you hauled off to jail.

But all that being said, I'm excited to be involved in this event and from what we are seeing so far, the excitement isn't limited to me.  And further, if this and the others planned go off well, they could end up being regular stops packed with some of the most exciting names in today's (and tomorrow's) fire service. 

So while you have a chance, sign up, join me for a few cocktails on Friday night, and especially join me during my two scheduled presentations: Zen and the Chief Officer and You Can't Make This Stuff Up.  Hopefully I will be able to meet some of you who have only been able to interact with me here.  I'm looking forward to that weekend.

Zen Zone #33

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"Let us not seek the Republican answer or the Democratic answer, but the right answer. Let us not seek to fix the blame for the past. Let us accept our own responsibility for the future."  - John F. Kennedy

I heard some excerpts the other day from a number of interviews with Jackie Kennedy that were just now released.  While this quote came from BrainyQuote.com, Mrs. Kennedy repeated a discussion that she and the President had in regard to cooperation and consensus.  President Kennedy apparently once said that the important thing to remember when working with differing points of view was to never get so locked into any idea that you couldn't back off of it later in the interests of the bigger picture.

This is an essential foundation of conflict resolution: acceptance that there are many different approaches to solving problems and realizing that your way is exactly that – YOUR way.  To bring others to understanding YOUR way requires that you consider THEIR way as well.  Work together, not apart.

Poor Leaders Are Like Noxious Gas?

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The lack of real leadership surfaces in a number of the world’s problems. I don’t necessarily feel like people can’t handle the job, I just think that in a lot of cases, people are designated as leaders who have no business in that position. To me, they are like gases with asphyxiant properties.

Some of these gases or mixtures aren’t necessarily harmful in and of themselves, but to us, their harm is that just by occupying space with their presence, they ruin what could be a perfectly suitable atmosphere. So to make the atmosphere tenable again, one effective tactic would be to replace these noxious materials with the materials we find suitable. 

Similarly, poor leaders displace good leaders.  By just being present and nothing else, they contaminate the atmosphere. As a result, good leaders are simply forced elsewhere.  Hopefully those good leaders can find places to create a better condition, but the loss of those individuals is intolerable to those left behind and the organization suffers.

In reading and watching the news in recent days I am reminded just how damaging these “asphyxiants” can be to organizations and really, to society. I see my job as being one to facilitate good leadership. I try to encourage you to be better people, to use good judgment, to learn and understand, and to be “missionaries”, carrying the message of good leadership to others. I don’t consider myself to be a good leader – I see myself as a continual work in process and have plenty of faults – but I recognize good leadership and I have observed what it takes to promote good leadership in others.

As much as I’d like to suggest to poor leaders that they should move out of the way to permit good leaders to fill that space, I think it is more realistic to say that perhaps we should convince those individuals to be more open-minded to learning, to engaging their people, and to promoting good practices. So you can see, instead of removing the problem, there is another tactic we can use in mitigating an asphyxiant atmosphere: by mixing the material in with a good atmosphere and making it much smaller in proportion to the whole, we can “safe” the atmosphere. While we may not always have the answers, if we can permit ourselves to be exposed to good practices and to see how things should work, we can make things better, incrementally, but just the same, much improved.

Be an agent of positive change. Promote best practices. And let’s all go home in the morning.

Zen Zone #32

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A tea master once accidentally slighted a warrior. The master apologized, but the warrior, with a legendary temper, demanded a duel. Having no fighting experience, the master asked the advice of a fellow Zen master who did possess such skill.

As he was served by his friend, the Zen swordsman could not help but notice how the tea master performed his art with perfect concentration and tranquility. "Tomorrow," the Zen swordsman said, "when you duel the warrior, hold your weapon above your head, as if ready to strike, and face him with the same concentration and tranquility with which you perform the tea ceremony." 

The next day, at the appointed time and place for the duel, the tea master followed this advice. As the warrior prepared to strike, he stared for a long time into the fully attentive but calm face of the tea master. Finally, the warrior lowered his sword, apologized for his arrogance, and left without a blow being struck. 

Even when faced with adversity, understand your adversary, maintain your composure, obtain perspective, and open your mind to opportunities that may not be readily obvious.

Zen Zone #31

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In compassion, there is strength. The next time you encounter difficulty in doing something, don't make it about you. Offer it up to someone you love. Just like Capt. Wines did the other day, you can move through adversity with courage and strength you never knew you had.  Choose to focus not on how this trial affects you, but on the trials that someone else is enduring.

Just this morning, I heard someone talking about the increase in hunger in our nation right now. That seems to be a dichotomy, what with the amount of chronic obesity in our nation right now as well.  The reality is, however, that people who can't afford to eat find the cheapest way to eat possible, and that food is usually not nourishing nor healthy.

My point is this: While you may feel like things are spiraling out of control, perhaps in these days we should focus some energy on helping solve local problems, the ones closest to us. We in emergency services are resourceful. We are problem solvers. And while I believe that if you put a firefighter in a locked, padded room with two steel ball bearings they would lose one and break the other, the flip side to that is that if you gave a firefighter a roll of duct tape, some wire hangars, and a pair of vise-grips, they could manufacture the Space Shuttle.

We are out there in our communities and we know these people better than anyone. If we see people who need help, we can do this in more ways than one. Team up with your local food bank, hold a clothing drive, or find another creative method to reach out to those in need. The goodwill you will achieve will be amazing, the publicity positive, and most of all, you will be doing good for those who need it right now.

It's a positive way to show everyone how much you care.

Zen Zone #30

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Today I was driving along, frustrated over some of the issues we face in society, wondering why some people just don't get "it".  This story returned to me when I was meditating and I found it answered my questions.  Instead of feeling contempt or anger for those who can't seem to understand an enlightened existence, perhaps we should feel compassion for them.

Ryokan was a Japanese Zen master who lived alone in a hut at the foot of a mountain. He lived in abject poverty and his hut was empty.  The Master slept on the ground and spent his days meditating on a rock.  One evening a thief crawled through the window of his hut, but discovered that there was absolutely nothing to steal.

Awakening, Ryokan startled the robber by greeting him and welcoming him into his home.  When the thief wanted to leave, Ryokan said, "You have come so far to visit me and I would be dishonored if you left enpty-handed".  Having no belongings, Ryokan gave the robber his own tattered robe. 

The thief was completely at a loss for words, and he took the robe and crept away into the night. Later, when meditating on the situation under the full moon, the Master thought, "How unfortunate. The only thing I could offer that man was my tattered robe. I wish I could have given him this beautiful moon."

The story also has another meaning as well; that we should always consider that while things might be bad for us, perhaps there are others who are suffering worse.  I said the other day that we should increase our capacity for compassion, and on the fire service front, I guess it could be much worse.  You could be faced with a scenario like this one in Kenya.

When you are challenged with a problem, it always helps to maintain perspective.

 

Zen Zone #29

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“DO NOT CLOSE YOUR EYES BEFORE SUFFERING—FIND WAYS TO BE WITH THOSE WHO ARE SUFFERING BY ALL MEANS, INCLUDING PERSONAL CONTACTS AND VISITS, IMAGES, AND SOUNDS. BY SUCH MEANS, AWAKEN YOURSELF AND OTHERS TO THE REALITY OF SUFFERING IN THE WORLD.” —Gautama Buddha, found in Sweeping Zen

This weekend is all about suffering and conversely, redemption.  We all can remember the sadness and the tragedy of that day and for a long time afterward, we were reminded daily of the sacrifices that occurred that day.  That suffering, however, brought our nation together and made us stronger – for a while.  Before long we were back to where we are today. We are experiencing the longest war our country has ever engaged in, economic ruin for many, unbelievable greed exemplified by the financial leaders, and bitter partisanship.  

When I read the ranting of people who "got theirs" and think the unemployed should just suck it up, it makes me want to puke.  When I see a homeless family on the street, yet we have people demanding cuts to social programs that might feed them, I wonder where our compassion is.  And when a thug gets out of jail and gets millions of dollars to go back to playing a game, yet there are chronically underemployed all around us, it makes me wonder where our priorities lie.

We continue to shovel money to these CEOs, we continue to send money to nations who hate us, and yet we can't fund vital education programs, fix our roads, or pay for the health of people who sacrificed themselves to bring their brothers home.  And the military, who are fighting these wars, away from their families for so long, are paying a tremendous sacrifice only to be making wages that qualify them for food stamps, and they can't find a job when they get back – if they get back- because there are no jobs to be found.

And I haven't even left the United States.  There is plenty of suffering world-wide to go around as well.  Open your eyes to the suffering and help those who need it most.  I struggle with those who preach compassion yet fail to offer any when people need it most.  While we are suffering, remember there are others who are suffering much worse.  Let's work together to create positive change. 

Zen Zone #28

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There has to be a koan somewhere about the Zen Master who was the least likely to take his own advice. While the surface may be calm, underwater there can be a raging torrent, and vice-versa. Sometimes change comes hardest to those who are its biggest advocate.

There is a lot of angst in the study of change, because as you come to appreciate it for what it is, you realize that it is also painful and bitter.  People are reluctant to change when they become comfortable, and the future isn't as scary when you know what to expect.  But like every other organism, if we fail to change, we die. And sometimes with change, we die as well.  Nobody ever promised change was safe. And while change may be necessary, it's not always good.

We can smooth those waters by meditating on the center of gravity, dwelling on the concrete and pushing the abstract away.  Defining  the true nature of the problem goes a long way toward solving it.  But when you lift that rock to look underneath, you may not find what you expect to see.  And you may not like it either.

Regardless, it is a journey, which as has been said before about, requires putting one foot in front of another. Forward, not backward. Treading carefully, but feeling the ground beneath each step, you can breathe again. Time to step again.  

Zen Zone #26

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"I expected times like this – but I never thought they'd be so bad, so long, and so frequent." – Ashleigh Brilliant, Despair.com

I used to pretty much "get on my game face" when one of these babies came wandering up from the Caribbean.  These days it seems like I'm just interested in getting on with things: either hit me or don't hit me, but let's not drag this out for a few weeks as I have little patience for drama.  Then of course, along comes the quake.  While this definitely ratcheted up the tension on the already nervous, it too didn't register much with me.  I guess not much fazes me anymore. 

While there is the wisdom shared by some that this is the Apocalypse, I'll point out that this was also said about a number of previous disasters by a number of similarly-wrong prophets, hucksters, and snake-oil salesmen posing as religious leaders.  I'm watching The Weather Channel like I do throughout most of the year anyway, hoping my family located in the Mid-Atlantic is doing okay, as they are usually wondering about us when the storms are aimed a little lower.

On my way back from out of town, I found myself contemplating the possibility of a strike on my community, as we were centered nicely in the earlier forecasts.  Strangely enough, and maybe it's just a sign that I am growing older, I felt pretty peaceful about it, so long as I could assure the safety of my wife and children and as well, spare the lives of my many Island neighbors (and other communities as well, but you get what I mean).  The rest is just stuff and stuff can ultimately be replaced.  It wouldn't be easy, but so long as we have each other, we have what we need.

A story I have repeated often (and have even spoke of it here on FHZ) is one from Katrina.  I met a man who had lost everything he had. When I questioned how God could let something like this happen, he said that he was thankful, because this was God's way of showing him how many people loved him.  In retrospect, some of the most valued lessons and gifts in my life came from Katrina. That sounds pretty bizarre, but the friendships I strengthened, the people who I met and have become lifetime friends with, the opportunities for learning and sharing, and many other things as well all came from the aftermath of that terrible storm.

Let's keep the people and communities who have already been impacted by disasters all over the world, and those who are in the sights of this new threat on the horizon, in our prayers.  And let's hope that instead of despair, each individual instead finds some meaning in these tragedies, meaning that strengthens them for the rest of their lives.

 

 

Zen Zone #23

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"It is a fact that we live in a religiously diverse world. Religious diversity can and often does result in grave misunderstanding, hostility, and, as we know all too well, conflict, with unacceptable costs to human life and well-being." – Rita Gross, quoted in Tricycle

It isn't just religion.  It is culture.  It is physical or mental disability. It is Republican or Democrat (or independent, for some of us). It is color. It is nationality. It is vollie or career. It is urban or rural.

Before we judge anyone, we have to first understand.  Just as we are all supposed to be brothers in the fire service, we are called to be brothers on this planet as well.  Good natured ribbing is not what we are hearing these days.  There is anger, hate and bile.  Being different isn't just okay, it is encouraged.  But being different gets stigmatized because some are frightened by difference.  Or they don't understand difference.  Or they are FORCED to accept difference.  Or they march in lockstep with those who are like them, who preach hate toward those who are different.

If anyone should be more understanding about our situation, it should be people who have a shared bond.  We in the fire service have a shared bond.  Before you say something you'll come to regret someday, think about it.  Then speak from your heart, not from your gut.

Zen Zone #22

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I'm pretty sure that Man is the only creature that, having not gotten his way, destroys in the name of retribution. Maybe I'm wrong, but if a bear, were to say, go hungry, I doubt that it would go tearing up the nests of other animals out of retaliation for being hungry. No, the bear would go to the ends of the earth to find something to eat.  If an elephant is wandering and looking for water, not finding any, it doesn't seek something to annihilate out of anger; the elephant will try to solve the problem.

Of course, now that there is an aggressive move afoot by the authorities in the UK to prosecute those involved in the riots there is the push-back that perhaps these individuals have "reasons" for being hoodlums.  While I agree there is certainly an underlying mount of tension as a result of unemployment and frustration with many of the current world problems, the logic behind rioting and destroying the livelihoods of others to prove a point is amazing.  If those involved would have instead massed together to create peaceful demonstrations and block off all of London for a few days, it would have been a strong message that would have carried some weight in the world, like those of the Arab Spring protests. Instead, we see these people as opportunistic and frankly, savage.  You can frame the arguement in whatever light you'd like but the truth of the matter is that these individuals were anarchists and scumbags.  They preyed on the vulnerable for their own amusement.

If you have a problem, work to solve the problem.  If you see injustice, move to point out injustice and to illustrate it in bold colors. If you see a terrible condition, like that which is happening right now in East Africa, then strive to provide aid.  But saying that destroying property and beating innocent people is protest is ridiculous.  But it is, however, consistent with the irrational way Man looks at the world.

Move to end suffering, not through destruction, but through compassionate action.

Zen Zone #21

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"The person of superior integrity does not insist upon his integrity. For this reason, he has integrity. The person of inferior integrity never loses sight of his integrity. For this reason, he lacks integrity." – Lao-Tzu

Once you lose integrity, it is very hard to gain that trust back. Therefore, it is imperative that you conduct youself always with understanding of others and always considering what is best for those you serve.  The hard decision, it seems like for some, is deciding who you really do serve.

In some organizations it seems like you are supposed to be serving your boss.  In some circles, I hear officers say they are supposed to be serving their subordinates.  While it important to keep these individuals in mind, if you have integrity, you will ultimately realize that you are supposed to be serving the citizens or customers who depend on you in their time of need.  The boss and the subordinates have important roles in how that service is delivered, and therefore, their needs must be considered, but when it comes down to it, if you make decisions based on what is best for the customers you serve, you can't go wrong.

Zen Zone #20

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Paraphrased from "Go Rin No Sho" (The Book of Five Rings), by Miyamato Musashi: "There is a time and place for use of weapons.  The best use of the companion sword is in a confined space, or when you are engaged closely with an opponent. The long sword can be used effectively in all situations.  But if you only learn these techniques, you will think narrowly and forget the true Way. You should not have a favorite tactic or weapon. To become over-familiar with one method is as much a fault as not knowing it sufficiently well. You should not copy others, but use weapons which you can handle properly. It is bad for commanders and troopers to have likes and dislikes. As a warrior, these are things you must learn thoroughly." 

Zen Zone #19

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A little Firehouse Zen humor, borrowed from the prolific author, Anonymous:  "Rome did not create a great empire by having meetings, they did it by killing all those who opposed them."

I actually do have a sense of humor, although it tends to be on the dark and dry side.  It helps to have a sense of humor about life in general, and especially in leading and in implementing change because frankly, none of this stuff ever goes smoothly.  And if it does, you can be reassured that someone is hiding something for an unwelcome surprise later.

At the heart of every successful leader is a light heart at the appropriate moments.  But as is with everything in leadership, timing and opportunity must be right.  Failure to observe that dictum can be fatal to your career and your reputation.

By the way, I know Anonymous isn't an author.  He's a spokesman for the Defense Department..  

Zen Zone #18

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I'm afraid I don't know as much about Islam as I should, so I was doing some reading, as this is the time of Ramadan.  According to what I have read, Ramadan is a time for practicing self-restraint.  Some of the rules I found interesting were that practitioners are called upon to observe "piety and sobriety with less pleasures of flesh than ordinarily enjoyed." 

According to the website Albawaba, Ramadan is a time for patience, humility and spiritual cleansing. "Even when tested by others one should abstain from ill-temper & impatience."  Taking a break from our normal lives to be more civil, less intemperate, or more willing to consider other perspectives sounds like a good one to me.  In fact, it sounds a lot like what our Lenten observances should also pursue (I'm aware that we should be doing this; just utilizing a little facetiousness).

Perhaps the commenters on some of my colleagues' blogs and websites should consider these practices, not just now, but always, when engaging with others.  Today we may feel like we can do no wrong, but I can reassure you, at some point, you will really be desiring mercy and forgiveness.  At that point, maybe its a good time to reflect on the mercy and forgiveness we have given to others as well.

Zen Zone #17

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When a combatant chooses to fight intelligently, the best method is to yield to the superior force and overcome it by its own momentum.   By doing so, the one who acts first creates the momentum for their own destruction. To do this requires intelligence, understanding the adversary, and your own strengths and limitations.

Every serious engagement with others should be treated as if you are in battle.  Negotiate, propose, further an agenda of good by always considering the stance of others, understanding their needs, and working to achieve what is the best for the people you serve. Whether the individual you face is in a truly adversarial role with you is immaterial.  Combatants win because they consider the positions of the enemy they are about to engage, respect their positions, and work to use those positions to leverage the best advantage.

Zen Zone #16

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"The perfect way", Sosan said, "is not difficult. Just drop discrimination. Clear and bright is the world when we neither hate nor love."  

Our world is filled with commentary on politics, ethics and social conduct. Society is fixated on "What is best?" "What is worst?"  "What is right?" "What is wrong?" "What is new and improved?" Our lives are spent trying to compete and climb our way to the top, wherever that is. Ego and pride continue to be evident in the poor decisions made by politicians, celebrities, the wealthy, and "leaders" in general. Self is placed above the needs of others on a daily basis and the world is much harsher as a result.

To correct this we must increase human compassion. Society revels in the advances made in science and technology, yet remains blind to our responsibility to our fellow man.  While there are those who continue to grab more and more, there are increasing numbers of those who have less and less. Instead of engaging in the race for greatness, we should be willing to work for goodness.

Zen Zone #15

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A great warrior decided to attack the enemy although he had only a fraction of the number of men the opposition commanded. He knew that he would win, but his soldiers were in doubt.  On the way to battle, he stopped at a shrine and told his men: "After I visit the shrine I will toss a coin. If it is heads, we will win; if tails, we will lose."

The warrior entered the shrine and offered a prayer, then came forth and tossed a coin. Heads appeared, and his soldiers were so eager to fight that they won their battle easily.  "No one can change the hand of destiny," his attendant told him after the battle.

"Indeed not," said the warrior, showing a double headed coin. "The battle was already won in our minds. We simply required action to fulfill that destiny."

Half the battle, in many cases, requires looking past potential failure and being present to create change.